Why I have severe pain during sex? - #379
We are Newly married couple.. whenever my husband try to penetrate I can't bear the pain ..only at particular distance he will eject after that I can't control the pain so I said no..I have vaginal pain also.please let me know what is the reason?
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Hello Maya, dyspareunia, or painful intercourse, can stem from various physical, hormonal, psychological, and medical causes. Physically, vaginal dryness, infections, skin conditions, pelvic floor muscle dysfunction, and conditions like endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease can contribute to pain. Hormonal imbalances, particularly low estrogen levels often affect lubrication and tissue elasticity. Psychological factors, including anxiety, past trauma, or relationship issues, may increase muscle tension or reduce natural lubrication, exacerbating discomfort. Certain medications, like antidepressants and antihistamines, can also impact lubrication, while chronic medical issues like irritable bowel syndrome or interstitial cystitis may intensify pelvic pain. Comprehensive treatment addressing both physical and emotional factors is often necessary for relief. Can you give any more details about the issue? Alternatively, you can do a vaginal medicated treatment known as Yoni Pichu ( dip sterile cotton pad in a medicinal oil like Jatyadi oil and keep near the vagina and gently insert it. Let it stay overnight & remove in the morning.) this will help in removing dryness & pain from the vaginal area but do it only when there is no other medical cause for it.
Pain during penetration can have various causes, often related to tension, dryness, or even muscle tightness in the pelvic region. In Ayurveda, this discomfort can also be linked to imbalances in Vata dosha, which governs all forms of movement in the body and, when aggravated, can lead to dryness, pain, and tension in the vaginal area. Given your history of piles, it’s possible that pelvic congestion or inflammation might be contributing to discomfort during intercourse. Gentle internal lubrication with Ayurvedic oils like Shatavari taila or Bala taila can help reduce dryness and soothe the sensitive area. Taking Ashwagandha and Shatavari as supplements may support relaxation and improve natural lubrication. Practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and pelvic floor exercises can also help release tension in the pelvic muscles, which may reduce pain. However, if the pain persists or feels severe, consulting a gynecologist is advisable to rule out any structural concerns, such as vaginismus, or any other underlying conditions that may require further treatment.
I hear you, and it sounds like you’re going through quite a challenging time. Pain during sex can be physically and emotionally stressful, especially when you’re just starting your married life. There could be several reasons for the pain you’re experiencing and it’s important to consider a holistic perspective.
Firstly, from an Ayurvedic viewpoint, this pain might stem from a Vata imbalance, as this dosha is linked with dryness and tension in the body, which might be contributing to the discomfort during intercourse. Increased Vata may lead to dryness in the vaginal area, making penetration painful.
To address this, you might want to try applying a natural lubricant like sesame oil or coconut oil, which are both nourishing and moisturizing according to Ayurveda. Gently apply it before intimacy to help ease the discomfort. Also, consider warm oil massages – abhyanga – around the pelvis area. This can calm aggravated Vata and promote flexibility and ease in your tissues.
Another factor could be tension or anxiety, which is also associated with Vata. Make sure you are fully relaxed and comfortable before engaging in intimacy. Deep breathing exercises or a brief meditation ahead of time can help soothe anxiety. Don’t rush things and communicate openly with your husband about what feels right for you.
It’s also crucial to think about your Nutritioal intake. Eating foods that pacify Vata dosha, like warm, cooked meals, with good oils can nourish your tissues. Include foods like sweet potatoes, carrots, and ghee in your diet, and stay hydrated with warm water.
If symptoms persist, seeking help from a gynecologist is a good idea. They can rule out any underlying medical concerns such as infections or hormonal issues, which might need more immediate attention. Sometimes things like these need professional interventions, and it’s totally okay.
Remember, you and your well-being are a priority. Always listen to your body and give it the care it needs.

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