NAMSTE First, I want to say—I’m truly sorry for your loss. Losing a mother, especially one you were so deeply connected to, is not something that can be “gotten over” in a few months. It sounds like you showed her so much love and care, and that deep bond is still present in your heart, even though she’s not physically with you anymore.
Everything you’re feeling—grief, sleeplessness, the early morning waking, swings between exhaustion and energy, irritability, and anxious thoughts—it’s all very real and understandable. Grief doesn’t follow a straight line. It comes in waves, sometimes soft, sometimes crashing. You’re not alone in this. how ever i am dvising you some holistic medications- ashwgandha powder 1/2 tsf with warm milk tab.-sumenta 1 tab twice a day head massage with ksheer bala oil NOTE- Avoid screens 1 hour before bed (or use soft yellow light if you must) Write a short letter to your mum at night or talk to her in your mind—it helps release emotions Take short, mindful walks in the morning sunlight When emotions come, let them. Cry, shout, smile—whatever form it takes. Suppressing makes it worse. Grief doesn’t mean you’re broken—it’s proof of how deeply you loved. Your mum lives on in your actions, your memories, your breath. You will feel whole again, slowly, gently. Not the same as before, but with a new kind of strength. You’re doing incredibly well, even on the hard days. Keep the music, keep breathing, and let the healing come in waves.
Do pranayama/ meditation Medha vati - 1 tab twice daily after food with lukewarm water Saraswathi aristha- 4 tsp with equal quantity of water twice daily after food Apply black sketch colour to both thumbs below nail daily for 4 hours
Sir. You are a mature person. And a loving son. Every person have to leave this life eventually. How they leave is important. You should think what your mother will feel by seeing your condition. So please move on
Grieving is a process that weaves through different aspects of our well-being, often interrupting sleep, bringing forth vivid dreams, and stirring our emotions. In Ayurveda, sleep disturbances accompanied by changing moods and irritability often point towards an imbalance in Vata dosha, which governs movement and nerve impulses. To ease these disruptions, you might consider focusing on grounding and calming practices.
Start by looking at your evening routine. Preparing your mind and body for rest is vital. Try to wind down at least an hour before bed with calming activities. Sip on a cup of warm milk boiled with a pinch of nutmeg or turmeric. Both have natural, soothing qualities. Practicing Abhyanga, a self-massage with warm sesame oil, can help calm the mind while nourishing the body.
Raga music’s soothing influence is excellent, so continue with that, especially during anxiety peaks. Aim to listen to slow and melodious tunes that can shift your mind to a peaceful state, but try to stop all auditory stimulation 30 minutes before bedtime to let the silence take over.
Practicing deep breathing exercises or meditation shortly before bed can also be beneficial. Try Pranayama, particularly Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing), for a few minutes; focusing on your breath can quiet racing thoughts.
During the day, when you feel energy dips or spikes in your mood, grounding foods like cooked grains, stews or warm root vegetables can stabilize your energy, helping to pacify Vata. Avoid caffeinated drinks particularly after the late afternoon as they may aggravate Vata imbalances further, contributing to erratic sleep patterns.
Each person’s journey with grief is deeply personal, and sometimes more direct support is needed. Ayurveda can complement the grieving process, but engaging with a counselor or therapist may provide additional support tailored specifically to the emotional aspects. And if anxiety attacks continue or worsen, seeking medical attention apt.
The road through grief is unique to each person, and allowing space for healing while caring for yourself in small, gentle ways can foster balance over time.
