Understanding Lack of Enjoyment in Sexual Intercourse - #47998
What can a lady of 22years do after realising that she doesn't enjoy sexual intercourse. However, she finds herself come and sometimes even sqirt but she said she doesn't feel the enjoyment. What could be her problem and what can she do about it?
How long have you been experiencing this lack of enjoyment?:
- More than 1 yearHave you experienced any physical discomfort during intercourse?:
- No, no discomfortWhat is your overall stress level in daily life?:
- Low, very relaxed
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THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT AND VALID QUESTION AND FIRST IT IS NECESSARY TO SAY THAT WHAT SHE IS EXPERIENCING IS NOT ABNORMAL NOT A DISEASE AND NOT SOMETHING TO FEEL GUILTY OR ASHAMED ABOUT MANY YOUNG WOMEN EXPERIENCE EXACTLY THIS AND IT IS OFTEN MISUNDERSTOOD
THE FIRST THING TO UNDERSTAND IS THAT ORGASMIC RESPONSE AND SEXUAL ENJOYMENT ARE NOT THE SAME THING THE BODY CAN RESPOND PHYSICALLY THROUGH LUBRICATION OR ORGASM OR EVEN SQUIRTING DUE TO NERVE AND PELVIC MUSCLE ACTIVITY WHILE THE MIND AND EMOTIONAL CENTER REMAIN DISCONNECTED ENJOYMENT COMES FROM INTEGRATION OF BODY MIND SAFETY EMOTION AND DESIRE NOT FROM PHYSICAL RESPONSE ALONE
IN A 22 YEAR OLD WOMAN WITH NO PAIN LOW STRESS AND NORMAL PHYSICAL RESPONSE THE MOST COMMON REASONS ARE EMOTIONAL DISCONNECTION FROM THE ACT ITSELF LACK OF MENTAL AROUSAL OR CURIOSITY UNCONSCIOUS CONDITIONING ABOUT SEX SUCH AS SHAME FEAR PERFORMANCE OR PEOPLE PLEASING NOT FULLY KNOWING HER OWN DESIRES LIKES AND BOUNDARIES NERVOUS SYSTEM STAYING IN OBSERVER MODE RATHER THAN PARTICIPATION MODE
VERY OFTEN WOMEN AT THIS AGE ARE HAVING SEX FROM A PLACE OF SHOULD RATHER THAN WANT EVEN IF THEY CARE FOR THEIR PARTNER THE BODY MAY RESPOND BUT THE INNER SELF IS NOT YET PRESENT
FROM AN AYURVEDIC POINT OF VIEW THIS USUALLY INDICATES THAT THE CREATIVE AND EMOTIONAL ENERGY IS NOT FLOWING FREELY TOWARDS PLEASURE IT MAY BE DIVERTED TOWARDS THINKING ANALYZING OR DISCONNECTING THE HEART AND LOWER ABDOMEN ARE NOT COMMUNICATING FULLY
WHAT SHE CAN DO STARTS WITH REMOVING THE IDEA THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH HER NOTHING IS WRONG
SHE SHOULD FIRST PAUSE ANY PRESSURE TO FEEL ENJOYMENT PLEASURE CANNOT BE FORCED THE MORE IT IS EXPECTED THE MORE IT WITHDRAWS
SELF EXPLORATION WITHOUT GOAL IS VERY IMPORTANT THIS DOES NOT MEAN JUST PHYSICAL TOUCH BUT NOTICING WHAT MAKES HER FEEL SAFE RELAXED CURIOUS AND PRESENT IN HER BODY OUTSIDE OF SEX
SLOWING DOWN DURING INTIMACY AND STAYING WITH BREATH SENSATION AND EMOTION RATHER THAN OUTCOME IS ESSENTIAL IF THE MIND IS WAITING FOR ENJOYMENT IT WILL NOT ARRIVE
COMMUNICATION WITH HER PARTNER IS ALSO IMPORTANT SHE MUST FEEL FREE TO SAY WHAT SHE LIKES DOES NOT LIKE OR IS UNCERTAIN ABOUT WITHOUT FEAR OF DISAPPOINTING
FROM A HEALTH SUPPORT SIDE GENTLE NOURISHING ROUTINES THAT SUPPORT HORMONAL AND NERVOUS BALANCE CAN HELP REGULAR MEALS ADEQUATE SLEEP WARM NOURISHING FOODS AND AVOIDING EXCESS STIMULATION
HERBS OR MEDICINES ARE NOT THE FIRST ANSWER HERE THIS IS NOT A HORMONAL FAILURE IT IS A CONNECTION ISSUE MEDICINES ARE ONLY CONSIDERED IF THERE IS CLEAR FATIGUE ANXIETY OR EMOTIONAL NUMBNESS
IF OVER TIME SHE CONTINUES TO FEEL NO EMOTIONAL OR MENTAL PLEASURE DESPITE SAFETY AND SELF EXPLORATION THEN SPEAKING TO A THERAPIST OR COUNSELLOR WHO WORKS WITH SEXUAL AWARENESS CAN BE VERY HELPFUL THIS IS ABOUT SELF DISCOVERY NOT TREATMENT
MOST IMPORTANTLY SHE SHOULD KNOW THAT ENJOYMENT OF SEX OFTEN DEVELOPS WITH SELF KNOWLEDGE TIME AND EMOTIONAL MATURITY IT IS NOT A RACE AND IT IS NOT A MEASURE OF WOMANHOOD OR HEALTH
THIS IS A PHASE OF LEARNING HERSELF AND THAT IN ITSELF IS HEALTHY AND NORMAL

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