Jagadeesh, it sounds like what you’re describing might be related to performance anxiety or a temporary imbalance — both quite common and often responsive to some simple changes. First off, it’s important to know that this isn’t unusual and many people experience it at some point.
In Ayurveda, this might be related to Vata dosha imbalance, which governs movement and can affect your nervous system and mental state. Think of it like this: when Vata is aggravated, anxiety can increase, affecting everything from digestion to your ability to stay relaxed during intimacy.
One practical thing you can start doing is practicing some deep breathing or pranayama right before sex. Just sit comfortably, take in a deep breath through your nose, hold it for a moment, then exhale slowly. Doing this for a few minutes may help calm your mind and maintain focus.
Also consider your diet — food plays a huge role. Include warm, nourishing foods like cooked veggies, whole grains, and nuts in your meals. Reducing stimulants such as caffeine or overly spicy foods may help soothe that Vata.
Another thing to keep in mind is your sleep. If you’re not getting enough rest, it can throw your whole system off balance. A good 7-8 hours is the sweet spot for many.
Herbs could also offer support. Ashwagandha, a traditional Ayurvedic herb, is known for reducing stress and enhancing vitality. You can take it in powder form with milk before bed or first thing in the morning.
If these do not help and things continue, don’t feel shy about reaching out to a healthcare professional. Sometimes a bit of counseling or therapy can be great for overcoming mental blocks. Just know you’re not alone in this and it’s manageable with the right approach!


