Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts After a Breakup - #39730
I am suffering from depression from last 5 months my condition was very worse but Now I feel much better after medication butI faced intrusive thoughts about past relationship. I am very stressed about that I don't Want to back from him because he leave me and didn't respect but sometimes the thoughts about past relationship never give up whole day
How would you describe the severity of your intrusive thoughts?:
- Extreme, I can't focus on anything elseWhat coping mechanisms have you tried to deal with these thoughts?:
- Meditation or mindfulnessHow is your overall emotional health aside from these thoughts?:
- Consistently low moodShop Now in Our Store


Doctors' responses
Intrusive thoughts after a breakup are not uncommon, especially when the emotions tied to that relationship were strong. In Ayurveda, we understand these thought patterns as related to an imbalance in the mind and emotions—predominantly the Rajasic and Tamasic qualities. When these qualities are disturbed, the mind becomes restless or dull, contributing to repetitive negative thinking.
To help manage these intrusive thoughts, it’s essential to pacify the mind through a few Ayurvedic recommendations. Incorporate practices that enhance Sattva (balance and clarity) in your life. Firstly, consider starting the day with Pranayama, like Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) for at least 10-15 minutes daily to calm the mind and promote mental clarity. Establish a regular routine or “dinacharya” that includes a consistent wake-up and sleep schedule; this helps stabilize vata dosha, which often becomes imbalance due to irregular lifestyle or emotional disturbances.
Diet also plays a key role in cultivating a calm mind. Foods that are fresh, warm, and nourishing such as milk, ghee, and whole grains support mental stability. Avoid excessively spicy, oily, or processed foods as they can aggravate your mental state. Sip on herbal teas like chamomile or brahmi to soothe anxiety.
Additionally, practice mindfulness or meditation every day, even if just for a few minutes. Guided visualizations focusing on letting go can aid in releasing past attachments. Abhyanga, or self-massage with warm sesame oil, is another way to ground and balance the emotions.
Writing in a journal at the same time each day about your thoughts and feelings might help to process and mitigate these intrusive memories. Engage in activities that you enjoy or provide fulfillment without involving the past.
If these thoughts become overwhelming, consult with an Ayurvedic practitioner for a personalized plan, or seek support from a mental health professional. Balancing the mind is a journey, and Ayurveda provides tools to assist but isn’t a substitute for professional advice, ensure continued collaboration with your healthcare provider.

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