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2 yrs ago I had broken up with a girl. It was very bad and toxic relationship. For 1 year I was very depressed. Now I have forgotten her but certain things have been taken up by miñd. When someone don't pick up my call I feel hurt same as used to happen during relationship.I do not want to make friends with anyone. When someone says anything bad to me I don't reply. Sometimes I just lost into things. I have tried multiple medicines but it didn't help me very much. Everything is good now except that I still feel the pain in my heart as during relationship. I always try to impress someone, if they do not respond like I want I feel pain in my heart and it feels like he or she doesn't like me. Even smallest things hurt me so much. Please guide me some medicine to take. I m taking sarswatarista as of now.

Dr. Harsha Joy · Accepted Answer

At 28, dealing with the emotional aftermath of a toxic relationship can be particularly challenging, especially when it leads to feelings of depression, anxiety, and an ongoing sense of loss. Your current use of Saraswatarishta is beneficial as it is known for its calming effects on the mind and improving cognitive function. However, to support your emotional healing and address the pain and sensitivity you're experiencing, a more comprehensive approach combining Ayurvedic treatments and psychological support is recommended.

In addition to Saraswatarishta, consider incorporating Ashwagandha (Withania somnifera) into your routine. This adaptogenic herb is known for its ability to reduce stress, anxiety, and improve overall mental well-being. You can take Ashwagandha powder (1 teaspoon) mixed with warm milk or water twice a day. Brahmi (Bacopa monnieri) is another excellent herb for mental clarity and emotional stability, which can help reduce feelings of insecurity and improve self-identity. Taking Brahmi capsules or powder (500 mg) daily can be beneficial.

It is crucial to engage in practices that promote emotional resilience. Meditation and mindfulness techniques can help you stay present and manage painful thoughts more effectively. Yoga can also be beneficial; poses like Balasana (Child's Pose) and Supta Baddha Konasana (Reclined Bound Angle Pose) can promote relaxation and emotional release.

While herbal remedies can support your journey, seeking professional therapy or counseling is equally important. A trained therapist can help you navigate through your emotions, develop coping strategies, and work on rebuilding your self-identity. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing negative thought patterns and improving self-esteem.

You might also consider joining a support group where you can share your experiences with others who have gone through similar situations. This can provide a sense of community and help reduce feelings of isolation.

Dr. Ayush Varma · Answer

First, I want you to know it's completely natural to feel like this after a rough patch like that. Relationships leave a mark, and it's okay to take time to heal. Now, you've done well with sarswatarista, as it's known for calming the mind and aiding mental clarity. But it's not always, like, a one-size-fits-all kinda thing.

You're dealing with some lingering emotions, and it sounds like the vata dosha might be a bit off balance here. Vata issues often cause those feelings of fear, insecurity, and loneliness. So what you want to do is anchor your emotions a bit.

First, let's talk about your daily routine. A regular, predictable schedule can help calm vata. Try waking up and going to bed at the same time everyday. Eating wholesome, warm cooked meals, too, can ground those airy feelings. Start with foods like cooked oats, soups, cooked vegetables, and toast with ghee.

In Ayurveda, ashwagandha is another herb you might consider. It's immensely grounding. Maybe have it as a powder or capsule, like a teaspoon with warm milk before bedtime - not more tho'. Its adaptogenic properties might bolster you against stressors over time.

Regular abhyanga (self-massage) with warm sesame oil would be beneficial too. It's not just about the physical massage; it calms the nerves at a deeper level.

Breathing exercises, or pranayama, can also be powerful. Try alternate nostril breathing, just for five minutes daily, to balance thoughts and emotions. Sometimes, meditation can be unsettling if not ready, so take it slow.

And, you know, don't rush into friendships or relationships just 'cause you feel the need to, focus on building a relationship with yourself first. Healing's a journey, not a race.

If the anxiety and sadness feel too much, it's completely okay to explore talking this through with a therapist who jives with your views. Supplements can't substitute watching those emotions and understanding them.

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