How to overcome depression and anxiety on my own - #16931
I think ave been suffering from depression for like 4 years now ,ave been trying to shove it off but its been persistent, i have researched on several causes ,symptoms and signs and looking at myself ave experienced ecery single bit of it .i was wondering if i could get to heal on my own without involving my family
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Dear Melanie,
I hear you, and I truly understand how overwhelming this journey must have been for you. In Ayurveda, the mind and body are deeply connected, and depression and anxiety are often linked to an imbalance in Vata and Kapha doshas. Vata governs movement and thoughts, and when it becomes aggravated, it leads to restlessness, overthinking, and anxiety. On the other hand, Kapha, when imbalanced, causes heaviness, lethargy, and a feeling of being stuck—which may explain why you’ve been struggling for so long. But healing is possible, and you do not have to go through this alone. Let’s approach this step by step, naturally and holistically.
First, start with your daily routine (Dinacharya). Ayurveda emphasizes stability and grounding for the mind, so try to wake up early (before 7 AM), expose yourself to natural sunlight, and do gentle movements like yoga or walking to improve circulation. Abhyanga (self-massage with warm sesame oil) can be incredibly healing, as it calms the nervous system and reduces anxiety. Your diet plays a huge role, too—favor warm, nourishing foods like cooked vegetables, whole grains, and herbal teas while avoiding excessive caffeine, processed food, and cold/raw meals, which can disturb mental balance.
Herbs can also support your healing journey. Ashwagandha is one of the best Ayurvedic herbs for anxiety and stress—it strengthens the nervous system and stabilizes mood. Brahmi and Shankhpushpi work wonders for calming restless thoughts and improving mental clarity. You can take them as a tea or in capsule form. At night, a warm glass of milk with nutmeg and turmeric can help improve sleep and reduce anxious feelings. Alongside this, try deep breathing exercises (Pranayama), especially Anulom Vilom and Bhramari, to calm the mind and reduce overthinking.
Most importantly, Melanie, be gentle with yourself. Healing is not about forcing yourself to “get over it” but rather about nurturing yourself with love, patience, and care. If you ever feel like your emotions are too much to handle alone, consider seeking guidance—whether from a close friend, therapist, or Ayurvedic practitioner. You are not alone, and your healing journey is valid. Start small, be consistent, and trust that with time, you will feel lighter, stronger, and more at peace. You deserve healing.
It’s brave of you to recognize and acknowledge the signs of depression, and healing is possible with a holistic approach. Ayurveda views mental health through the lens of balancing the mind and body. Herbs like Ashwagandha and Brahmi are known to help reduce stress, improve mood, and support mental clarity. Additionally, regular practices such as meditation, yoga, and pranayama (breathing exercises) can help calm the mind and restore emotional balance. Diet plays a crucial role too—consuming grounding and nourishing foods, such as warm, cooked meals, can help stabilize your mood. While self-care is essential, seeking professional support—whether from an Ayurvedic practitioner or mental health specialist—can provide the guidance you need for long-term healing. It’s important to be kind to yourself and recognize that healing is a journey, and you don’t have to do it alone.
It sounds like you’ve been dealing with a lot, and figuring things out on your own can feel daunting. Ayurveda believes that everything is interconnected - body, mind, and spirit. Healing from depression can involve balancing this interconnectedness.
First thing is to consider your dosha. Ayurveda identifies three doshas - Vata, Pitta, and Kapha - and any imbalance could play a part in mental health issues like depression. If you’re dealing with lethargy, hopelessness, or weight gain, Kapha might be too high. If it’s anxiety and overthinking, it might be Vata. And if you’re dealing with irritability or frustration, Pitta could be out of balance.
For now let’s talk diet. Try warming and grounding foods if Vata’s feeling out of whack - think sweet potatoes, roasted veggies, or something like a hearty lentil soup. If you suspect a Kapha imbalance, focus on lighter foods - veggies, fruits, and spicy dishes can help feel more energetic. Pitta likes cooling foods, so think salads or cooling drinks like aloe juice.
Incorporate meditation or mindfulness in your daily routine. Doesn’t need to be fancy, maybe just sitting quietly for 5 min, focussing on your breath. Sounds simple but breathing practices can really help calm the mind.
Physical activities can be super beneficial too. Even a quick walk can get your blood moving, lift mood a bit. Yoga, especially calming poses like child’s pose or legs-up-the-wall, can also be helpful in relaxing the mind and body.
Herbal teas too - maybe try ashwagandha or brahmi, they are quite known to aid in stress relief. Warm tea before bed, setting a relaxing routine, can help.
You don’t have to tell everyone, but sometimes, sharing even just a little with a friend or helplines when it gets tough, might be really helpful. They won’t judge, and it’s sometimes easier to get through when you’re not all alone.
But also, if things get really difficult, seeing a therapist or counselor would be a major step. It’s absolutely okay to heal yourself with a little help. You deserve to feel better, taking small steps is key.

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