How do I figure out if I am gay? - #21721

I am really confused about my feelings and I need some advice, like, seriously. So, I've been questioning my sexual orientation lately and I can't stop asking myself, "am I gay?" It's been on my mind nonstop for a few months now, which is kinda intense, right? I mean, I’ve had crushes on girls in the past — like my best friend from high school, and I totally thought it was just a phase. But now I find myself getting these deep feelings towards guys too. It’s kinda confusing. Sometimes I just wanna scream, "am I gay?" When I think of dating, I feel like my mind is a mess because I don’t really know if I'd be happier with a guy or a girl. And let’s be real, the more I think about it, the more I feel like I’m leaning towards guys which totally freaks me out. That’s making me question everything! I talk to my close friends about it, but they’re more supportive than anything else. They usually just say, "Dude, just figure it out at your own pace!" But like, when am I supposed to feel 100% sure? My head is just spinning every time. I’ve been reading online about different sexual orientations, and it seems like there’s a lot of fluidity these days — which makes me wonder if it’s okay to even just ask if “am I gay”? Like, are there signs or something? Sometimes I feel attracted to the idea of being with a guy, but I also get kind of anxious about it — like, what would my family think? What if I’m wrong? It all feels so intense, ya know? I also feel like everyone around me is so sure of themselves—like they’ve already figured out their stuff. Meanwhile, I’m just here stuck in my own head, questioning if I’m gay, all the while feeling like I’m pulling away from my old crushes. It’s like, what if I’m just going through something? Or, is this my reality now? It would be helpful to know if anyone else has felt like this too! I just feel lost and scared but kinda excited too, which is weird. I'm open to any thoughts you all have, and if you have any tips or experiences about figuring out whether "am I gay?" or just maybe bi or something, I’d love to hear them. I guess I realize it might take time, but I just need to chat about it. Is it normal to feel this way? Honestly, I'm all ears!