Hello, It is very good to know that, you have acknowledged what you are going through and ready to make changes(and you are already on the path of changing) The following will help you to address the issue:
1. Consult a clinical psychologist/counsellor so that you can have a clear plan to come out of the issues. 2. Take one on one session for yogasana -pranayama-meditation; then keep the practice everyday
Medicines- 1. Saraswatarishtam with gold (avp) 15ml----0----15ml after breakfast and after dinner for 90 days. 2. Manasa mitra vatakam(avp) 2 tablets with milk at bed time for 90 days.
(Medicines are just to manage the symptoms of helplessness, raising thoughts)
Take care, Kind regards.
🧠 Why They Persist - Conditioning through repetition: Masturbating to the same type of pornography or fantasy reinforces those pathways in your brain. - Stress and anxiety: Fantasies can become a coping mechanism, even if they cause guilt afterward. - Suppression paradox: Trying to “force them away” often makes them stronger. The brain resists suppression.
🛠️ Gentle, Practical Steps Here are strategies that can help reduce the intensity of these fantasies over time:
Professional therapy: - A sex therapist or psychologist can help you reframe and redirect intrusive sexual thoughts. - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is especially effective for intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors.
Mindful awareness instead of suppression: - When a fantasy arises, notice it without judgment (“this is just a thought, not me”). - Redirect your focus to something grounding—breathing, a mantra, or a physical activity.
- Limit isolation triggers - Since fantasies arise when you’re alone, structure your time with more social, creative, or physical activities. - Journaling or exercise can help redirect energy.
Hlo,
Ayurvedic Prescription (6–8 weeks) 1. Manas Shanti & Thought Control
Brahmi Vati (plain) 👉 1 tablet twice daily after food with lukewarm water
Ashwagandha Churna 👉 3–5 g at night with warm milk 2. Reduce Sexual Urges & Fantasies
Kamdudha Ras (muktayukta) 👉 1 tablet twice daily after food
Shatavari Churna 👉 3 g morning + evening with milk
3. Nervous System Strength Saraswatarishta 👉 15 ml twice daily after meals with equal water 4. If urges become uncontrollable
Medha Vati (Divya/Baidyanath) 👉 1 tablet at bedtime
Strict Lifestyle Rules (VERY IMPORTANT) ❌ No porn, no erotic content (even “checking”) ❌ No late nights, no alcohol, no stimulants ✅ Cold water face wash morning & night ✅ Anulom Vilom + Bhramari: 15 minutes daily ✅ Sleep before 11 PM
Diet Avoid: spicy, fried, onion, garlic, non-veg at night Prefer: milk, ghee (small amount), fruits, soaked almonds (5)
⚠️ Important Truth You are NOT mentally ill. This is Rajo-guna dominance + habit loop. Ayurveda + discipline can reduce fantasies, but complete recovery requires patience (3–6 months). If at any point you feel hopeless or unsafe, please seek immediate help from a mental-health professional alongside Ayurveda.
Tq
Avoid addiction if any. Avoid oily spicy and processed foods. Minimize use of digital media. Regular exercise and meditation. Increase intake of raw vegetables and fruits. Cap.Stresscom 1-0-1 Cap.Brahmi 1-0-1 Focus on your career. Follow up after 2 weeks.
मानसामित्र वटकम 1 टैब बीडी लें, शंखपुष्पी सिरप 20ml बीडी
Take brahmi 2 bd Tak livtone 2 bd Take shatavri 2 bd Take ashwagandha 2 bd Take kamdugdha ras 2 bd Do nasya 2 drop each nostril 2 times day
Hello I’m really glad you reached out and spoke so openly. What you’re going through sounds really tough, but it doesn’t mean you’re broken, mentally ill, or beyond help. A lot of people struggle with unwanted sexual fantasies. The pain usually comes from the clash between those thoughts and your own values, love, and sense of who you are—not the fantasies themselves.
Let’s get this straight: –You are not a bad person. –You’re not perverted. –You’re not doomed. –You’re definitely not alone. –And this can get better.
You’re a 24-year-old guy with self-awareness, remorse, strong values, and a lot of love in you. That says a lot about your core—there’s nothing wrong with who you really are.
So, what’s actually going on here?
–This isn’t about real-life desire for someone else. –What you’re describing fits with compulsive sexual fantasies that are tangled up with anxiety, shame, and old habits. –You see this a lot with things like sexual OCD, compulsive sexual behavior, or just anxiety that keeps looping these thoughts.
Some signs:
–These fantasies only show up when you’re masturbating. Afterward, you feel disturbed, ashamed, or guilty. –You don’t want these fantasies to come true. –They clash with your values and love for others. –And the harder you try to push them away, the louder they come back.
That means these fantasies aren’t your true desires—they’re mental habits, not your identity.
Why do they feel so powerful?
–Porn and masturbation can train your brain to chase whatever’s new or taboo. –Dopamine spikes and suddenly your brain thinks shock equals arousal. –Content gets more extreme. – Arousal gets tied up with fear and shame. – This is how your brain rewires itself—it’s about neuroplasticity, not some kind of personal failure.
And here’s the kicker: –fighting or trying to erase the thoughts just makes them come back stronger. –Things like forcing yourself not to think, checking if you’re “normal,” seeking constant reassurance, extreme suppression, or beating yourself up—none of that helps. – In fact, it teaches your brain that these thoughts are dangerous, so they just keep showing up.
What actually works (and yeah, there’s real evidence for this):
1) Stop judging the thought—start labeling it.
Instead of asking, “Why am I like this?” try, “This is just an intrusive fantasy. It doesn’t define me.” Don’t argue with it, don’t punish yourself, just notice it and let it pass.
2) Separate the fantasy-arousal loop from real intimacy.
–Right now, your brain links masturbation with fantasy. You need to break that link—not shame yourself for it, just reset. –Try cutting back on masturbation (no need to quit cold turkey), and when you do, don’t fantasize. –Focus on your body, your breath, what you’re actually feeling. This helps retrain your arousal to exist in the present, not in fantasy.
3) Quit porn for good (you’ve tried before, but this really matters).
–Porn keeps the loop going, even after long breaks. When urges hit: take a cold shower, go for a walk, do some pushups, or just wait 10 minutes. –Urges rise and fall like waves—they always pass.
4) You need professional help—and that’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
–Seriously, talk to a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. Ask about sexual OCD or intrusive sexual thoughts. Therapy like CBT and ERP actually works. Sometimes even a low-dose SSRI can make a huge difference with these intrusive fantasies. – This is medical, not moral. Plenty of people get much better within weeks or months when they get the right help.
About your relationship:
–Right now, your nervous system is on high alert. –Don’t bring up these fantasies with your partner again while you’re healing. – Focus on emotional safety, non-sexual closeness, and rebuilding trust with yourself first. –You can absolutely have a healthy, loving sex life—but your mind needs to calm down a bit first.
About what you said: “Otherwise I’ll die.”
–That tells me you’re in a lot of pain—not that you actually want to die—but I take it seriously. –If you ever feel like you might hurt yourself, or things just feel hopeless, please reach out right away: talk to someone you trust, a mental health professional, or a crisis line in your country. – You deserve support. You don’t have to carry this alone.
One last thing I really want you to remember:
–Thoughts aren’t desires. –Fantasies aren’t your identity. –Arousal isn’t your values. –You’re not your thoughts. You’re a man who wants love, stability, and real intimacy—and that’s totally possible.
You’re not broken. You’re just overwhelmed right now—and that can be fixed.
Warm Regards Dr Snehal Vidhate
Hello
Truly appreciate that you spoke frankly about your condition and also you have a strong desire to change it. Yes you will get good results as you are ready to change.
It is not simple to just say and quit everything. It is a slow process. Remember these thoughts will come back in your mind but what is important is acknowledging them and than changing your thinking. Change of thoughts will only be possible when you get yourself into some kind of physical activity like cycling, swimming, running…
Think Stop Run… This is the key to get rid of the thoughts.
🧘♀️ Anulomvilom and Bhramari Pranayam will help. But you have to do it early in the morning only.
❌ Donot get yourself into any addictions.
❌ Donot drink tea or coffee or aerated drinks.
❌ Reduce screen time… No screen in darkness and 1 hour before you sleep. Consume audio form of data rather than visuals before you sleep. Filter the content of data you consume…
✔️ Drink a glass of buffalo milk daily before you sleep; it will help you get a sound sleep.
✔️ 100 steps after both meals are must.
✔️ Eat only home cooked food… Avoid outside food, packed and processed food.
✔️ Prefer natural liquids like fruit juice, coconut water, lemon juice, kokum sharbat over packed ones.
💊 Medication: 💊
Panchendriya Vardhan Tailam 2 drops in each nostril early in the morning empty stomach.
Cap. Memorin(S.G.Phytopharma) 2 caps twice a day before food.
Syp. Prasham 4 tsp at bed time with lukewarm water. Tab. Manasmitra Vatak 2 tabs at bed time.
Dear patient, First of all, what you’re going through is truly painful and emotionally exhausting — and you are not alone in this. Many people develop repeated sexual fantasies due to overexposure to pornography + anxiety + habit formation in the brain, and it does NOT mean you are mentally ill or a bad person.
✅ The good news: this is treatable. But honestly, medicine alone cannot solve it. Along with Ayurvedic medicines you must do:
Digital detox
Complete porn avoidance
Routine & physical activity
Mind training (meditation/yoga)
Porn rewires the reward system of the brain, so the mind starts needing “stronger novelty” to feel excitement. The solution is gradual rewiring, not shame.
🌿 Ayurvedic Prescription
1) Saraswatarishta
Dose: 15 ml BD How to take: with equal water Timing: after meals
2) Brahmi Vati
Dose: 1 tablet BD Timing: after meals with lukewarm water → improves focus, calms mind, reduces intrusive thoughts
3) Brahma Rasayan
Dose: 3 gm OD Timing: morning (empty stomach) or after breakfast → strengthens nervous system, improves memory & mental stability
4) Shatavari Churna
Dose: 3 gm OD (at night) How to take: with warm milk → nourishes body, supports hormones, calms irritability
⏳ Duration: 8–12 weeks (follow-up every 2–3 weeks)
🥗 Diet (Mind-Calming & Sattvik)
✅ Eat more of:
warm home-cooked food
milk, ghee in small quantity
moong dal khichdi, daliya
almonds 4–5 soaked daily
banana, pomegranate
herbal water: fennel + coriander
❌ Avoid strictly:
alcohol, smoking
excess tea/coffee
spicy junk food
late night heavy dinner
🧘 Yoga & Pranayama (Must)
Daily (20–30 minutes)
✅ Anulom Vilom – 10 min ✅ Bhramari – 5 min ✅ Sheetali/Sheetkari – 5 min (cooling for mind & pitta) ✅ Meditation – 10 min (mindfulness)
Yoga postures:
Surya namaskar (slow) 5 rounds
Vajrasana
Balasana
Shavasana (must)
🌿 Home Remedies
✅ Ashwagandha milk (optional if anxiety/stress high)
Ashwagandha powder 2–3 gm + warm milk at night (only if no acidity issue)
✅ Nutmeg (Jaiphal)
a pinch in milk at bedtime (only small amount) → helps sleep, reduces hyperactive thoughts
✅ Warm oil massage
apply Brahmi oil / sesame oil on scalp 10–15 min before bath (3–4 times/week)
📵 Digital Detox & Habit Reset (MOST IMPORTANT)
✅ Follow this like treatment:
No porn at all
Don’t stay alone with phone at night
Keep phone outside bedroom
Avoid Instagram reels/shorts (same dopamine cycle)
Sleep by 10:30 pm
✅ Engage in activities:
gym / sports / running
learning skill: music, coding, reading
social interaction + family time
❤️ Relationship Advice
Don’t overthink fantasies = thoughts are not actions.
Be honest but gentle with partner.
Focus on love, bonding, emotional intimacy.
⚠️ Important Safety Note
You wrote: “otherwise I’ll die” If you ever feel like harming yourself, please seek urgent help immediately from a doctor/psychiatrist or a trusted person. This condition is treatable, and your life is precious
I am really glad you reached out and spoke honestly because what you are experiencing is deeply distressing and it deserves care not shame First I want to say you are not mentally ill and you are not broken
You are a young man with a sensitive mind who developed a compulsive fantasy pattern that has attached itself to sexual arousal and fear of loss
These fantasies do not define who you are They are not your true desire for life or love They are learned mental loops that get stronger when anxiety loneliness guilt and sexual arousal mix together
When you are calm connected emotionally and feeling secure you feel normal attraction and love When you are alone stressed anxious or sexually stimulated the mind goes into an old conditioned pathway because the brain has learned to associate arousal with a specific fantasy
Trying to fight it forcefully suppressing it or hating yourself makes it stronger…
That is why stopping porn,meditation ,lifestyle changes alone did not help.
The root is anxiety ,attachment ,fear of losing her and a hyperactive imagination during arousal.
This is treatable
From an ayurvedic perspective the nervous system needs grounding strengthening and emotional safety
Ashwagandha capsule one capsule morning and one at night with warm milk This reduces anxiety fear and sexual compulsivity
Brahmi capsule one capsule after lunch
Jatamansi capsule at night after dinner This is important for intrusive thoughts and emotional disturbance
Avoid all pornography not by force but by replacing the habit.
When sexual urge comes immediately shift the body walk,splash cold water on face, do 10 slow exhalations or talk to someone. Do not stay alone with the urge.
Daily oil massage to feet and lower abdomen with warm sesame oil before sleep Sleep before 11 pm Avoid stimulants like excessive caffeine
You need to work with a qualified mental health professional preferably a psychiatrist or sex therapist. This is not a failure. This is the fastest and safest way to heal. Cognitive therapy sometimes combined with short term medication can break this loop effectively.
If at any point you feel like you might harm yourself or feel that you cannot cope you must seek immediate help from a local doctor emergency service or a trusted person around you. Your life is valuable.
You love your partner and you want a healthy bond. That itself proves your core desire is normal intimacy not these fantasies.
With proper support patience and treatment you can absolutely return to a healthy sexual life You are not alone and you are not beyond help.
आप अपने साथी के प्रति बहुत ही अधिकारपूर्ण और मानसिक रूप से जुड़े हुए हैं, लेकिन दूसरी ओर आप एक भावुक इंसान भी हैं। इस पूरे परिदृश्य में आप अपने साथी को खोने से डरते हैं और गुस्सा और चिंता के मुद्दों में फंस जाते हैं। घबराएं नहीं, आयुर्वेद ने आपको ठीक किया है और पूरी तरह से इलाज किया है:
दिव्य न्यूरोग्रिट गोल्ड कैप = 1-1 कैप भोजन से पहले दिन में दो बार
मेधा सागर रस वातगजानकुश रस = 1-0-1 टैब भोजन के बाद दिन में दो बार
भ्रम रसायन = 1 चम्मच दूध या पानी के साथ नाश्ते से पहले दिन में एक बार
नियमित ध्यान करें = भ्रामरी/उज्जयी/योगनिद्रा
तेलयुक्त, मसालेदार और खमीरयुक्त खाद्य पदार्थों से बचें
1 महीने के बाद परामर्श करें
सादर डॉ. अतुल पैनुली पतंजलि योगपीठ
Hi Well this is all your sexual excitement which can only be controlled by yourself This type of condition is not usually treated by medications You need a proper counselling despite medicines Still you can go for Brahmi vati-2 tab -BD Meditation, avoid masturbation and pornography
First, take a deep breath. You are not mentally ill. You are suffering from Confusion of Mind caused by deep-seated Samskaras (Mental Impressions). The pornography you watched created a neural highway in your brain. Now, your brain creates dopamine (pleasure chemical) only when it travels that specific road. It is a Habit Loop, not your true personality. You can rewire it, but it needs chemical support because willpower alone failed you.
Ayurvedic Prescription (To Reset the Brain) Manasamitra Vatakam: 1 tablet twice daily (Morning & Night).
Sarpagandha Ghan Vati: 1 tablet at night.
Nasya (The Brain Reset): Put 2 drops of Cow Ghee (warm) in each nostril every morning.
Psychological Strategy (Sattva Vavajaya) The “Stop” Technique: The moment the fantasy enters your mind, do not fight it. Instead, physically shock your system. Splash Ice Cold Water on your face or hold your breath for 30 seconds. This breaks the electrical circuit of the thought immediately.
Rewiring Intimacy: When you are with your partner, focus on Touch (Sparsha), not Visuals. Close your eyes. Force your brain to feel the skin, warmth, and breath. You must retrain your brain to find pleasure in reality, not pixels.
Medical Alert: Since you mentioned I’ll die, please understand this is a chemical imbalance that WILL pass. However, if you feel suicidal, you must visit a psychiatrist immediately for support alongside these Ayurvedic medicines. You can recover from this.
Regards Dr Gursimran Jeet Singh MD Panchakarma
HELLO,
WHAY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING IS NOT YOUR TRUE DESIRE
You have two different mental states
1) NORMAL STATE -you love your partner -you want normal, exclusive intimacy -you feel disturbed by third person fantasies
2) AROUSAL-TRIGGERED STATE -when alone, especially during masturbation -the mind jumps to extreme sexual imagery -fantasies escalate -afterwards-> guild, fear, self hatred
This means the fantasty is not your personality It is conditioned mental reflex
Ayurveda does not label this as perversion
Mental imbalance with disturbance of -chanels of mind -sexual energy -nervous system
WHICH DOSHA ARE DISTURBED?
1) VATA (main problem) CAUSES -loss of control -Intrusive thoughts -repetition of unwanted ideas -anxiety and fear
2) RAJAS (over-stimulation) CAUSES -hypersexual imagination -restlessness -mental agitation
3) TAMAS (compulsion and guilt) CAUSES -repetitive behaviour -shame -feeling “I am bad” This combination creates compulsive sexual fantasy, not health desire
WHY THIS STARTED AND WHY IT CONTINUED
WHY IT STARTED AT 18 -high shukra dhatu activity (young age) -first exposure to novelty fantasy -brain linked arousal + novelty + dopamine
WHY IT CONTINUED EVEN AFTER STOPPING PORN -The neural pattern is already formed -Mind learned : “Arousal = extreme imagery” -This does NOT disappear just by willpower
That’s why -meditation alone didn’t work -lifestyle alone didn’t work -suppresiion didn’t work
This needs systematic treatment , not self blame
TREATMENT GOALS -stabilize the nervous system -reduce intrusive sexual imagery -normalize shukra Dhatus -shift arousal back to partner-based intimacy -remove guilt and fear from mind
This is gradual re-training not instant cure
INTERNALLY
A) MIND CALMING MEDIICNES
1) BRAHMI CAPSULES= 500mg cap in morning with warm water =reduces intrusive thoughts, improves mental control, calms mental channels
2) SHANKHAPUSHPI SYRUP = 10 ml in afternoon =reduces obsession, stops repetitive sexual imagery, pacifies rajas
B) NERVOUS SYSTEM STABILIZERS
3) JATAMANSI CAPSULE= 1cap at night =breaks compulsive mental loops, excellent for sexual OCD -like thoughts
4) ASHWAGANDHA CHURNA= 1 tsp with warm milk at night = grounds vata, normalize libido, improves confidence
DURATION OF INTERNAL MEDICATIONS Minimum= 3 months Ideal= 6-9 months Mental patterns need time, not force
DIET -rice, wheat, oats -mong dal -milk warm -ghee 1-2 tsp daily -pumpkin, bottle gourd, carrot -dates, soaked almonds 4-5
AVOID -onion, garlic -eggs,red meat -alcohol, caffiene -spic, oily, junk food -excess sugar -night eating These increase rajas and sexual agitation
SPECIAL HOME REMEDY -warm milk + 1/2 tsp nutmeg at night =reduces sexual over stimulation, calms mind, improves sleep
AVOID -excessive meditation -intense kundalini practices -froceful breathing retention
ADVISED -Nadi sodhana= 15 min daily =balances mind and nervous system
-Bhramari= 7-10 rounds =reduces mental noise and fantasy
-Yoga nidra= before sleep =helps reset subconscious patterns
USEFUL ASANAS -vajrasana -shashankasana -pawaanmuktasana -paschimottanasana
LIFESTYLE CORRECTIONS -sleep before 11 pm -no lying idle alone at night -avoid sexual fantasy reinforcement -cold water wash of genital area before sleep -daily sunlight exposure -physical work- walking, mild strength
MOST IMPORTANT MENTAL INSTRUCTION
DO NOT -fight the thought -analyze the fantasy -judge yourself
INSTEAD Says mentally -This is a conditioned thought, not me
Then shift attention to body or breath
This weakens the loop over time
You are not abnormal You are not morally damaged You are not beyond recovery
This condition is -treatable -reversible -commoner than people admit
But it needs -time -structure -support
DO FOLLOW
HOPE THIS MIGHT BE HELPFUL
THANK YOU
DR. MAITRI ACHARYA
Start with Manasmitra vatikam 1-0-1 after food with water Brahmi vati 1-0-1 after food with water Cap. Ashwashila 1-0-1 after food with water Do pranayam lom -vilom bhastrika bhamri 5-10mins twice Learn Rajyoga meditation and practice daily.
