How I’m Working on Getting Harder Erections During Sex (After Struggling with Porn Addiction) - #25563
Watching too much porn messed with my erections during sex. I realized it was a problem and decided to quit. Now I'm focusing on real connection, and it's already making a difference. Here's what I'm doing to fix it.
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Avoid addiction if any. Avoid spicy, oily and processed food. Regular exercise and meditation. Increase intake of raw vegetables and fruits. Tab.Confido 2-0-2 Cap.Stresscom 1-0-1 Count plus granules 15gms twice with milk
HELLO RAJ,
YOU ARE FACING .WEAK ERECTION- INCOMPLETE ERECTION OR DIFFICULTY SUSTAINING IT.
SEXUAL FATIGUE- NO ENERGY OR CONFIDENCE AFTER THE ACT OR FEAR OF FAILURE
PROBABLE CAUSES- -PSYCHOLOGICAL STRESS=PERFORMANCE ANXIETY,DEPRESSION,LOW SELF IMAGE -POOR BLOOD FLOW= LACK OF NITRIC OXIDE TO PENILE TISSUE -NERVE WEAKNESS= DELAYED STIMULATION AND REDUCED SENSATION -HORMONAL IMBALANCE= LOW TESTOSTERONE OR HIGH PROLACTINE
#AYURVEDIC UNDERSTANDING YOUR SYMPTOMS ARE CLASSIC OF SHUKRA KSHAYA+ VATA DUSHTI, SPECIFICALLY:- -KLAIBYA=ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION-FROM LOW VITALITY
-OJAKSHAYA= LOW ENERGY,FATIGUE,MENTAL STRESS
TREATMENT GOAL 1)IMPROVE ERECTION STRENGTH AND DURATION 2)INCREASE LIBIDO AND CONFIDENCE 3)NOURISH SHUKRA DHATU-SEMEN AND VITALITY 4)REDUCE MENTAL STRESS/ANXIETY
#START TAKING THIS MEDICINES FOR 3MONTHS CONTINUES
*MORNING(EMPTY STOMACH) 1)SHILAJIT GOLD CAP- 1 CAP WITH WARM MILK=IT BOOSTS STAMINA, TESTOSTERONE, AND LIBIDO
2)ASHWAGANDHA CHURNA- 1 TSP WITH WARM MILK HALF A GLASS= ADAPTOGEN:REDUCES STRESS AND IMPROVES SEMEN QUALITY
#AFTER MEALS(TWICE DAILY AFTER LUNCH AND DINNER)
3)VRIHAT VATCHINTAMANI RAS(PLAIN)- 1 TAB WITH HONEY= STRENGTHENS NERVES AND IMPROVES ERECTION CONTROL
4)SWARNA MAKSHIKA BHASMA- 125 MG WITH KAUNCH BEEJ CHURNA-1TSP MIX WITH WARM MILK= IMPROVES SPERM RETENTION AND STIMULATES MOOD
#AT BEDTIME
5)YOHIMBINE OR ATMAGUPTA CHURNA- 1 TSP WITH MILK AT BEDTIME= NATURAL APHRODISIAC ,INCREASES DOPAMINE FOR AROUSAL
#EXTERNAL THERAPY
1)WARM OIL MASSAGE-FOCUSED PELVIC MASSAGE- WITH SHATAVARI TAILA OR ASHWAGANDHABALA TAILA AREA- LOWER BACK,ABDOMEN,INNER THIGHS, AND GROIN AREA TIME- DAILY OR 3-4TIMES/WEEK DURATION- 15-20 MIN -ALWAYS WARM THE OIL BEFORE USE -USE GENTLE CIRCULAR STROKES OVER LOWER ABDOMEN AND GROIN -FINISH WITH A WARM TOWEL WIPE OR LUKEWARM SHOWER
2)LOCALISED HERBAL STEAM THERAPY -APPLIED AFTER OIL MASSAGE -HELPS IN VASODILATION-OPENS BLOOD VESSELS AND ENHANCES ERECTION -VERY USEFUL. IN NERVE RELATED ED OR WEAK SENSITIVITY -TAKE A BIG VESEEL OF HOT WATER WITH HERBS LIKE DASHMOOL,TRIPHALA,VACHA -COVER THE LOWER BODY WITH A CLOTH, LET THE HERBAL STEAM PASS ON THIGHS, LOWER ABDOMEN,BUTTOCKS DURATION= 10-12 MIN
3)SHUKRA TAILA- TAKE 2-3 DROPS AND APPLY OVER THE SHAFT OF PENIS(NO GLANS), GENTLY MASSAGE FOR 5 MIN BEFORE BED
4)SESAME OIL WITH CAMPHOR- WARM MIX 2 DROPS OF CAMPHOR OIL, APPLY ONLY ON SHAFT,MASSAGE LIGTLY=DAILY
NOTE- USE HIGH QUALITY CERTIFIED AYURVEDIC BRANDS LIKE DOOTPAPESHWAR, BAIDYANATH, UNJHA OR DIVYA PHARMACY PRODUCTS ONLY
#SEMEN-NOURISHING DIET-VERY IMPORTANT EAT THESE DAILY - COW’S GHEE , MILK WITH DRY DATES OR CARDAMOM -WHITE ONION JUICE OR GARLIC MILK AT NIGHT -BLACK SESAME SEEDS, PUMPKIN SEEDS, SOAKED ALMONDS -BOILED EGG , BANANA, AVOCADO, FIGS, DATES -HERBAL TEA OF SAFED MUSLI+GOKSHURA+ASHWAGANDHA
#STRICTLY AVOID -FRIED, SOUR, OVER SPICY FOOD -EXCESS TEA, COFFEE, COLD DRINKS -SMOKING, ALCOHOL,PORN USE,FREQUENT MASTURBATION -LATE NIGHT FOOD OR MOBILE PHONE USE AT NIGHT
NOW COMES THE MOST IMPORTANT PART TO FOLLOW
1)KEGEL EXERCISES(MOOLA BANDHA IN YOGA) PURPOSE- STRENGTHEN PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES THAT SUPPORT ERECTION AND SEMEN CONTROL
HOW TO DO- -SIT/LIE DOWN AND TIGTHEN THE MUSCLES YOU USE TO STOP URINE MID STREAM -HOLD FOR 5-10 SECONDS, THEN RELEASE -REPEAT 15-20 TIMES, 3 SETS DAILY-MORNING,AFTERNOON,NIGHT
ADVANCED- TRY KEGEL CONTRACTIONS SURING AROUSAL , FOREPLAY, OR URINATION CONTROL TO STRENGTHEN EJACULATION DELAY
2)PELVIC THRUST EXERCISE(BRIDGE POSE) -LIE ON BACK, BEND KNEES, FEET FLAT -RAISE HIPS UPWARDS WHILE SQUEEZING BUTTOCKS AND HOLDING CORE -HOLD FOR 10 SECONDS AND RELEASE -DO 15 REPS*3 SETS
3)YOGA ASANA FOR SEXUAL STRENGTH -BHUJANGASANA=BOOSTS PELVIC CIRCULATION -PASCHIMITTANASANA= INCREASES SEMEN QUALITY -VAJRASANA AFTER MEALS= IMPROVES DIGESTION AND SHUKRA DHATU -ASHWINI MUDRA(ANAL LOCK)=CONTROLS PREMATURE EJACULATION
#PRANAYAM-DO 10-15 MIN DAILY -ANULOM VILOM- NERVE BALANCING -BHRAMARI- CALMS MIND, REDUCES OVER EXCITEMENT -UDGEETH- CONFIDENCE+OJAS BOOSTING
#EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL BALANCE WHAT YOU MAY BE FACING- -FEAR OF DISAPPOINTING PARTNER -GUILT OVER PAST FAILED EXPERIENCES -OVERDEPENDENCE ON PORN/ARTIFICIAL TRIGGERS -TIREDNESS FROM LACK OF SLEEP/DIET
WHAT TO DO -ACCEPT IT- SEXUAL WEAKNESS IS REVERSIBLE , DONT PANIC -TALK- EMOTIONAL INTIMACY>PHYSICAL PERFORMANCE -ENJOY SLOW FOREPLAY-DON’T RUSH -PRACTICE BRAHMACHARYA-BASED DETOX- 10-15 DAYS ABSTINENCE(NO SEXUAL ACT, NO MASTURBATION,NO AROUSAL), THEN SLOW RETURN -SLEEP MINIMUM 7 HORS DAILY AT NIGHT -AVOID PORN, OVER MASTURBATION STRICTLY
FINAL ADVICE -START THIS PROTOCOL FOR 8-12 WEEKS AND SEE VISIBLE IMPROVEMENT IN 1 WEEK -AVOID PERFORMANCE STRESS -STAY NATURAL,GROUNDED, AND COMMITTED TO HEALING.
DO FOLLOW
HOPE THIS MIGHT BE HELPFUL
THANK YOU
DR. MAITRI ACHARYA
HELLO RAJ,
At age 23, -erectile dysfunction
These can happen due to -poor blood flow -nerve damage - hormona decline- testosterone decreases with age -obesity or loss of muscle tone -side effect of medications
Ayurveda sees sexual health as governed by shukra dhatu(reproductive tissue), and dysfunction can be due to imbalance in vata, pitta or kapha especially vata in neuropathy and aging
AYURVEDIC MEDICATIONS
1)ASHWAGANDHA CHURNA- 1 tsp with warm milk at bedtime =rejuvination, nerve tonic, improves improves strength and libido
2)SHILAJIT RESIN- 500 mg resin once daily with warm water =aphrodisiac, enhances blood flow and energy, antioxidants
3)GOKSHUR CAPSULE- 1 cap twice daily =urinary system support, mild diuretic, improves stamina
4)KAPIKACCHU POWDER- 3-5 gm powder with warm milk twice daily =dpoamine precursor, improves erection and libido
5)SAFED MUSLI POWDER- 5 gm with milk twice daily =aphrodisiac, strength-promoting , improves erectile function
EXTERNAL USE -ASHWAGANDHA BALA TAILA -warm the oil and gently massage lower back, thighs, and lower abdomen daily
DIET -warm, cooked nourishing foods -add ghee, dates, almonds, saffron, milk -avoid cold, dry, spicy, fried food -avoid smoking, alcohol, and heavy night meals
YOGA+PRANAYAM -moola bandha-pelvic floor tightening= 10-15 reps/day -vajrasana, bhujangasana, pavanmuktasana -anulom vilom, bhramari, deep breathing -Do kegel exericses
DO FOLLOW
THANK YOU
DR. HEMANSHU MEHTA
1.Aswaganda churnam 1tsp at night with warm milk/Aswaganda tab 2 at bedtime 2.Spermakot granules 1tsp twice daily after food 3.Stress com Caps 1 after dinner
*Practice Meditation/Yoga regularly *Maintain a healthy lifestyle always
Avoid edging (touching without finishing) — it resets your dopamine baseline
Mindful self-control: When urges come, replace them with action — walk, workout, journal
🏋️ 2. Boost Natural Testosterone & Confidence
Habit Action
Sleep 7–8 hrs, before 11 PM (Testosterone peaks during deep sleep) Exercise Strength training + squats, deadlifts, pushups, yoga (esp. Ashwini Mudra + Mula Bandha) Sunlight 20 min daily – boosts Vitamin D & mood Diet High zinc, protein, and healthy fats
🔥 Include in Diet:
Pumpkin seeds, eggs, paneer/tofu
Ashwagandha (1 tsp with milk at night)
Shilajit resin or capsule (once daily – boosts energy & testosterone)
Dates, soaked almonds, black raisins
Ghee (1 tsp in lunch)
Start taking Ashwagandha choorna 1tsf with Lukewarm milk twice in a day… Include meditation, yoga,pranayam in your daily routine…
Take cap. Ashwashila 1-0-1 after food with water Youvanamrit gold 0-0-1 at bedtime with water Apply ashwagandha bala oil on penis externally twice daily. Remain stress free. Have light and early dinner. Follow up after 1 month
To address weakened erections stemming from porn addiction, the principles of Ayurveda offer holistic pathways toward healing. In Ayurveda, this condition could be rooted in an imbalance in the Vata dosha, impacting your Prana Vata and Shukra Dhatu, which are key to sexual health. Here’s a focused approach you can use to strengthen erections naturally, with remedies centered around diet, lifestyle, and Ayurvedic treatments.
First, incorporate foods known to balance Vata like warm, cooked meals, seasoned with digestive spices such as cumin, coriander, and fennel. A daily bowl of kitchari—a mixture of rice and mung dal—provides nourishment without taxing digestion. For a stronger Shukra Dhatu, almonds soaked overnight, adding them with a bit of saffron and cardamom can enhance reproductive health. Ghee is particularly valuable to lubricate and nourish tissues; add a spoonful to your meals.
As for herbal support, Ashwagandha is renowned for its aphrodisiac properties and can be taken twice daily in powdered form with warm milk. Another classical herb, Shatavari, supports overall vitality, also works well with milk. Practice Abhyanga (self-massage) with warm sesame oil before a shower; it can help to pacify erratic Vata energy, promoting calmness.
In terms of lifestyle, prioritise a regular sleep schedule to regulate circadian rhythms, as sleep disruption affects hormone levels and sexual function. Aim also for stress reduction through yoga or pranayama—alternate nostril breathing—focusing particularly on slower exhale to balance energy.
Lastly, if improvement is sluggish or issues persist, consult an expert Ayurvedic physician for tailored guidance, as excessive symptoms may indicate deeper imbalances. Meanwhile, keeping away from porn exposure is singularly important to break the cycle and encourage healthy erections naturally.
Thanks for sharing. It’s a big step to realise how porn affected you and to actively quit, it shows strength and awareness. 23 year brain is still rewiring, fast and quitting porn is already helping you reconnect with real intimacy in the beginning. It’s normal to feel or frustration, but with time your body starts responding better to real touch and emotional connection staying active eating well getting good sleep and managing stress will help even more you’re not broken. Your just resetting keep going here or simple Ayurvedic medicines, which will further support you with your issue. Yavanamrita vati- Yauvan gold capsule- One tablet each twice daily to be taken after food with warm milk
hello raj, Thank you for sharing so honestly it takes courage to admit this, and you’re already doing the right thing by quitting porn and focusing on real emotional connection. What you’re going through is more common than you think, especially at your age. Watching too much porn overstimulates the Dopamine-Reward system in the brain and disconnects mind from the body which leads to poor erections in real situations, low confidence, and even emotional numbness.
In Ayurveda, this is seen as Shukra Kshaya (reproductive depletion) with Vata imbalance in the Manovaha and Shukravaha Srotas (mind and sexual channels). Since you also had a history of fits (which is a Majja vaha srotas condition), your system is a little more sensitive but absolutely treatable.
✅ What You’re Already Doing Right Quitting porn – excellent first step Focusing on real connection – this naturally grounds Vata and strengthens Ojas Awareness of the pattern – most people never even reach this point
🌿 internal. medications to Restore Erections and Mind-Body Connection Ashwagandha Avaleha – 1 tsp with warm milk twice daily (builds strength + calms mind) Saraswatarishta – 15 ml with equal water after meals (for nervous system + concentration) Kameshwar Modak – 1 modak early morning with milk (strengthens Shukra dhatu + improves libido) Shilajit capsule – 1 capsule at night with milk Brahmi Ghrita – ¼ tsp early morning empty stomach (restores brain-sexual coordination)
🧘♂️ Mind-Body Recovery Practices Do Bhramari + Anulom Vilom pranayama 10 mins daily Sit in Padmasana/Siddhasana with eyes closed and focus on breath after sunrise Avoid phone screen before sleeping (at least 1 hour gap) Don’t suppress sleep, hunger, or natural urges — let Vata stay balanced
🍽️ Diet Tips Warm, fresh, ghee-rich food Include soaked almonds, dates, black sesame, cow ghee, moong dal Avoid over-spicy, stale food, soft drinks, and night heavy meals No coffee, no cold drinks, no late nights
🩺 Optional Investigations Serum Vitamin D3 Serum Testosterone Vitamin B12 Thyroid Profile
You’re just 23 — your body can bounce back quickly. You’ve already taken the most important step by quitting the addictive habit. Now give your body and mind the right support to restore balance, confidence, and performance — not artificially, but naturally and deeply.
If you have any doubts, you can contact me. Take care, regards, dr.Karthika.

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