I am having Out of control Trichophilia - #27631
I have loved women's long hair for many years. Since the age of about 11-12. Seeing a woman with long hair arouses my penis. Sometimes I ejaculate just by looking at it. When I was a bachelor, I used to watch videos of such women and enjoy it. If I saw a woman with such long beautiful hair on the road or anywhere, I would record a video of her beautiful long hair. But now after marriage this has become a problem.


Doctors’ responses
HELLO SAMIR,
you’re describing is Trichophilia (hair fetishism), and since it has become out of control and is now interfering with your married life, it requires a balanced approach
1) UNDERSTANDING IN AYURVEDA -This condition can be seen as Anti-indriya asakti (over attachment to sense organs), mainly involving Manas (mind), and shukra dhatu(sexual energy) -It is related to vitiation of rajas and tamas in the mind
2) DIET AND LIFESTYLE -Sattvik diet= fresh fruits, vegetables, milk, ghee, nuts in moderation. avoid excess spicy, oily, and junk food -Brahmacharya practice= channel sexual energy through self-discipline, prayer, yoga -Daily routine= early waking, meditation, regular exercise, avoid overstimulation= porn, excessive social media scrolling
3) MIND- CALMING PRACTICES
YOGA AND PRANAYAM -Nadi sodhana -bhramari -meditation on breath
-Oil massage with medicated brahmi oil to calm nervous system
-Oil puling therapy effective for calming obsessive thoughts
4) HERBAL SUPPORT
-Brahmi vati= 1 tab twice daily calms mind, improve self control
-SHANKHAPUSHPI SYRUP= 20 ml at night reduces anxiety, , obssevie thoughts
-ASHWAGANDHA CAPSUELS= with warm milk twice daily balances sexual energy, reduces stress
5) SATVAVAJAYA CHIKITSA -This involves mentall discipline, counselling, and redirecting thoughts -practice mindful awareness- when the impulse arises, redirect energy into a constructive task -if it is severely affecting marital relationship, professional sex therapy to counselling is highly recommended
THANK YOU
DR. MAITRI ACHARYA
It appears you’re describing a unique fixation, often called trichophilia. From an Ayurvedic perspective, this could be related to the mind’s processing of sensory impressions, known as indriya pradoshaja vyadhi. This attraction may be quite ingrained, but Ayurveda offers methods to help balance the mind and senses.
First, consider incorporating meditation and pranayama (breathing exercises) into your daily routine. These practices can aid in calming the mind and reducing fixations. Try the Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) for 10-15 minutes daily, preferably in the morning or when you feel the fixation intensifying. This balances the nadis (energy channels), influencing mental clarity and control.
Herbs like Ashwagandha and Brahmi can also play a role in calming the mind. Ashwagandha is known for its adaptogenic properties, helping reduce stress and anxiety, while Brahmi enhances cognitive function and supports emotional balance. You can take these as powders or capsules. Consult an Ayurvedic practitioner to determine the appropriate dosage for your constitution (prakriti).
Dietary changes can also provide support. Favor light, warm meals and incorporate saffron and milk. Sattvic foods, those that are fresh and natural, promote a peaceful mind. Avoid excessive spices, stimulants, or heavy foods that aggravate rajas or tamas in the mind.
Considering your married life, open communications with your partner about this situation can pave the way for understanding and support. Seek mental health counseling if necessary, as this fixation could benefit from cognitive behavioral therapy alongside Ayurvedic practices.
Lastly, regular physical activity can help channel surplus energy and improve mood. Daily walks or yoga can be good options, syncing the body and mind in daily rhythm. Remember, patience and consistency with these approaches can guide you toward balance.
Being intensely attracted to long hair, as you’ve described, indeed indicates a condition sometimes associated with trichophilia. In Ayurveda, it’s essential to understand both mental and physical aspects, aiming to balance our mind and body’s energies. Your focus on and response to hair may be linked to an imbalance in your doshas, particularly if it’s disrupting your daily life or relationships.
From a Siddha-Ayurvedic perspective, this might reflect aggravated Rajas, a mental quality associated with desire, action, and restlessness. Addressing this begins by calming both mind and body. Consider incorporating a regular routine of meditation or pranayama, focusing on reducing mental stimulation and achieving more equilibrium. Anulom Vilom (alternate nostril breathing) can be particularly effective for calming heightened mental activity and restoring balance to Vata dosha – which governs movement and excitation in your mind and nervous system.
Dietary adjustments may also support mind-body balance. Favoring Kapha-pacifying foods can ground and stabilize excess mental energy. This involves consumeing more whole grains, cooked vegetables, and moderate use of spices like cumin and fennel. Avoid overly stimulating foods, including caffeine, sugar, and heavy meats which could exacerbate Rajas.
Herbs known for sustaining emotional harmony, such as Brahmi or Ashwagandha, may help manage mental focus and reduce heightened reactivity to stimuli. Vagbhatas Ashtanga Hridayam suggests these for maintaining mental peace, though it’s key to consult a practitioner to ensure they align with your unique constitution.
Engage in activities that redirect focus and energy, perhaps creative or productive pastimes that encourage mindfulness and strengthen Sattva – the quality of stability, clarity, and balance. If these approaches don’t manage the condition effectively, or if it’s causing distress, it would be crucial to reach out to a mental health professional. Such a professional can provide insight and strategies specific to your situation, prioritizing safety and psychological well-being.

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