Why does I have self doubts,very low self esteem - #7048

Namaste Harnoor,

Your symptoms indicate imbalances in Manas doshas—Rajas (restlessness) and Tamas (inertia)—caused by emotional distress from the past. This has led to self-doubt, low confidence, and difficulty concentrating.

Ayurvedic Guidance: Herbs for Mental Clarity: Brahmi and Ashwagandha: Take in the form of tablets or powder to calm the mind and boost confidence. Shankhpushpi: Improves focus and mental strength. Lifestyle and Diet: Follow a Sattvic diet (fresh fruits, nuts, milk, and whole grains). Avoid processed foods. Practice Abhyanga (self-massage) with Brahmi oil to reduce anxiety. Yoga and Meditation: Daily Pranayama (e.g., Nadi Shodhana, Anulom-Vilom) to balance emotions. Practice Balasana (child’s pose) and Vriksasana (tree pose) to build inner stability. Routine: Sleep early, wake up with the sun, and maintain consistency in your studies with short breaks. Healing the mind takes time. With regular practice and positive affirmations, you will rebuild your confidence. Consult an Ayurvedic doctor for a personalized approach.

So, you’re feeling a bit down, and honestly, it’s pretty understandable with what you’ve gone through. A breakup can shake things up inside, right? Ayurveda might offer a few insights and approaches that could help gently nudge things back to a more balanced place.

Firstly, let’s think about Vata dosha, which tends to get a bit out of whack when we’re feeling anxious or scattered. Emotions like fear or worry can push Vata even higher, leading to that nervous, jittery feeling you’re describing. So let’s get into it. One thing that might help is some warm, grounding foods. Are you eating regularly? Meals that are light, warm, and nourishing, like soups or cooked grains with spices like cumin and turmeric, can settle Vata energy. Maybe include plenty of root vegetables, and don’t shy away from healthy fats like ghee or avocado.

On the lifestyle side, creating a routine is key. It doesn’t have to be strict or rigid. Just, you know, something predictable. Get up, go to bed, eat, and meditate at the same time each day if you can swing it. Consistency can be super calming. And yoga, particularly postures like child’s pose or forward bends, can be reassuring. They ground and calm the nervous system.

Speaking of meditation, a simple breathing practice might be worth your time. Have you tried Nadi Shodhana, alternate nostril breathing? It helps balance the hemispheres of the brain and is great for focus and calming the mind. Start with 5 minutes a day, whenever you feel distractable.

Emotionally, give yourself space to heal. Sometimes we overlook the emotional churn. It’s fine to process things s-l-o-w-l-y. And maybe journal about what you’re feeling—no one has to ever read it but you. Spill it out, whatever’s clogging the brain, without worrying about making sense or coherence.

If you find it really hard to maintain, maybe seeing an Ayurvedic therapist can offer more personalized guidance. They might help identify things I couldn’t possibly assess here.

And just a note: if things feel too overwhelming, combining traditional care with what Ayurveda offers can be beneficial, so don’t shy away from seeking support. You deserve to feel steady and calm.