how to penis massage - #37424
I am really confused and kinda embarrassed, but I think I need some advice. Recently, I heard about how to penis massage, and I was curious. I've been having some issues with, well, sensitivity and a bit of tension down there, which started affecting my confidence. Last month, I tried to talk to my doctor, but I felt super awkward and didn’t get into details, ya know? I keep seeing all these videos and articles that say how to penis massage can help with relaxation and even improve erectile function, but honestly, it all sounds a bit overwhelming. Like, I wanna do it right and not mess things up even more! Sometimes I get mixed up with all the techniques – should I use oil? How hard should I press? And, is there like a good or bad time to do it? I guess my main question is, how to penis massage without making things worse or feeling more anxious? I feel like I need a bit of guidance from someone who actually knows what they’re talking about. 😅 Any tips or experiences you can share? I really appreciate any help!
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Doctors' responses
Penis massage, or what some might refer to as Lingam massage in certain practices, can indeed be a beneficial technique to enhance relaxation, sensitivity, and overall wellbeing. It’s important to approach this with a calm mind and with the intention of self-care rather than performance. Here’s a simple way to integrate this practice safely:
To start with, choosing the right oil is important. Ayurvedic suggestions often include warming oils like sesame oil or, alternatively, almond oil which is neutral and nourishing for the tissues. It’s advisable to warm the oil slightly by placing it in a warm water bath — just not too hot, which might cause discomfort.
Timing wise, consider doing this when you have at least 20-30 minutes of uninterrupted time, preferably in the evening after a warm bath when the body is naturally relaxed. This is the time when the mind can be at ease, aiding the experience.
Begin the massage by applying a liberal amount of oil to your hands, and then gently to the area, starting with soft, circular motions at the base and gradually working upward. Try to keep your grip firm but gentle; you’re aiming to stimulate, not apply friction or discomfort.
Breathing is crucial during this practice. Slow, deep breaths can help the mind relax, setting a cadence for your hands to follow. You’ll want to find a balance with pressure: firm enough to feel but not so much that it causes any pain or tension. Over time, you’ll develop a sense of what level of pressure is right for you.
In Ayurveda, attention is paid to what is around us — keep the environment calm. A dimly lit room with soothing sounds or silence can enhance relaxation further.
Remember, this practice is not just physical; it’s also mental. If feelings of anxiety rise, pause, breathe, and return when you’re feeling centered. Focus on the pleasurable sensation and let go of performance concerns — over time, you’ll likely find this reduces tension and anxiety, perhaps even boosting confidence.
Avoid using unfamiliar products or experimenting without understanding their impact on your body. If at any point you feel unusual discomfort or soreness, give yourself a break and consult a practitioner—listening to your body is key.

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