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Question #39669
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Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts After a Breakup - #39669

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I am suffering from depression from last 5 months my condition was very worse but Now I feel much better after medication butI faced intrusive thoughts about past relationship. I am very stressed about that I don't Want to back from him because he leave me and didn't respect but sometimes the thoughts about past relationship never give up whole day

How would you rate the severity of your intrusive thoughts?:

- Extremely severe, overwhelming

Have you noticed any specific triggers for these thoughts?:

- No specific triggers

How do you usually cope with stress related to these thoughts?:

- Avoiding the thoughts
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Hello, I understand the stress you are undergoing. Please get in touch with a counselling+psychotherapist and start taking regular sessions. Along with that the following will help you: 1. Tab Manomitram(avn) 1—0—1 after breakfast and dinner for 45 days. 2. Saraswatarishtam with gold 15ml—0—15ml by adding 20 ml of boiled cooled water for 30 days.

And also learn pranayama and start practicing 15 minutes at a stretch 2 to 3 times a day(anulamoa-vioma and bhramari)

Take care, Kind regards.

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Hello I truly understand how painful and exhausting it can feel when intrusive thoughts about a past relationship keep returning — even after you’ve started feeling better. What you’re experiencing is completely natural; the mind takes time to heal after emotional loss. So please don’t worry we are here to help you out😊

✅ AYURVEDIC TREATMENT PLAN

✅ INTERNAL MEDICATION

1. Manas Mitra Vatakam – 1 tablet twice daily with warm milk (Calms anxiety, controls intrusive thoughts, and improves sleep.)

2. Brahmi Vati – 1 tablet twice daily with warm water ( Enhances concentration, memory, and emotional balance./

3. Saraswatarishta – 20 ml with equal water after food twice daily ( Nourishes the nervous system, improves mood, and strengthens mental stability.)

4. Ashwagandha Churna – 1 teaspoon with milk at bedtime ( Reduces stress, improves sleep, and restores emotional strength.)

✅MIND–BODY PRACTICES

Morning Routine

Start your day with Abhyanga (self-massage) using sesame or Brahmi oil on the scalp and soles — this pacifies Vata and relaxes the mind. Sit quietly for 10 minutes, close your eyes, and repeat the mantra: Om Shanti Om — it invokes mental peace and grounding.or any mantra you belive in

Yoga Asanas- Balasana , Setu Bandhasana ,Viparita Karani Pranayama- Anulom Vilom, Bhramari

✅ DIET & LIFESTYLE GUIDELINES

✅ Include

Warm, nourishing foods: ghee, milk, rice, moong dal, cooked vegetables. Include herbs like turmeric, cinnamon, and basil. Fresh fruits (especially banana, pomegranate, and apple) to uplift mood.

❌ Avoid: Excess caffeine, sugar, spicy or fried food — they disturb Vata and Rajas. Overuse of social media or movies that trigger emotional memories.

Sleep Routine:

Maintain regular bedtime before 10:30 PM. Avoid screens 1 hour before sleep — read something calming or listen to soft instrumental music.

✅ MENTAL HEALING PRACTICES Write a gratitude journal each morning — list 3 things you’re thankful for. Practice forgiveness meditation: close eyes and mentally say I release the past with happiness Surround yourself with positive people or spiritual reading (Bhagavad Gita, Yoga Sutras, or inspirational books*). Spend 15 minutes in sunlight daily — it naturally elevates serotonin levels.

With calming herbs like Brahmi, Ashwagandha, and Saraswatarishta, regular self-care, and a sattvic routine, your thoughts will gradually settle, and inner peace will return.

Healing the mind is like strengthening a muscle — gentle, consistent effort brings stability and joy back.

Wishing you a good health 😊

Warm Regards Dr Snehal Vidhate

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Depression and other disorders related to the mind can only be treated when you make up ur mind to get rid of them.

❌ Try and avoid the trigger factors as much possible. Anxiety is a state of mind which you can surely control by altering your thoughts…

Just note the patterns n timings of the feeling and make yourself busy in that time… If you have nothing to do at that time simple do some physical activity or go for a walk or if it is possible for you concentrate on your breath(which most of the people find difficult to do)

🧘‍♀️ Anulomvilom and Bhramari Pranayam will help. But you have to do it early in the morning only.

❌ Donot get yourself into any addictions.

❌ Donot drink tea or coffee or aerated drinks.

❌ Reduce screen time… No screen in darkness and 1 hour before you sleep. Consume audio form of data rather than visuals before you sleep. Filter the content of data you consume… Let it be spiritual or positive…

✔️ Drink a glass of buffalo milk daily before you sleep; it will help you get a sound sleep.

✔️ 100 steps after both meals are must.

✔️ Eat only home cooked food… Avoid outside food, packed and processed food.

✔️ Prefer natural liquids like fruit juice, coconut water, lemon juice, kokum sharbat over packed ones.

💊 Medication: 💊

Panchendriya Vardhan Tailam 2 drops in each nostril early in the morning empty stomach.

Cap. Memorin(S.G.Phytopharma) 2 caps twice a day before food.

Syp. Prasham 4 tsp at bed time with lukewarm water. Tab. Manasmitra Vatak 2 tabs at bed time.

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Avoid oily, spicy and processed foods. Regular exercise and meditation. Increase intake of raw vegetables and fruits. Tab. Brahmi 1-0-1 Tab. Stressnil 2-0-2 Focus on your career. Follow up after 2weeks.

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Take manasamithra vatakam 1tab bd, shankapushi syrup 20ml bd, Brahmi vati 1tab bd enough

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HELLO,

After breakup, your mind is still trying to “process” painful memories. Even when you logically know the relationship wasn’t healthy, the emotional mind keeps replaying those scenes or thoughts These are called intrusive thoughts- unwanted mental images or memories that pop up repeatedly , causing sadness, anxiety, or guilt

In your case -depression symptoms low mood, energy, motivation show that your mental and physical energy are depleted -The constant replay of the past shows vata imbalance (restlessness, overthinking) and rajas tamas dominance (mental agitation and dullness)

ACCORDING TO AYURVEDA -The mind has three basic qualities -sattva (clarity, peace) -rajas (activity, passion, restless ness) -tamas (darkest, confusion , inertia)

-During emotional shock or breakup, rajas and tamas increase-> causing racing thoughts, sadness, withdrawal and self blame

AT THE PHYSICAL LEVEL -VATA DOSHA becomes disturbed -AGNI (mental and digestive fire) becomes weak-> leading to Ama (toxic residue) in both body and mind -This manasika ama clouds emotions, creating repetitive , obsessive, or sad thoughts

TREATMENT GOALS -stabilize and calm the nervous system balance vata -reduce intrusive thoughts -strengthen emotional resilence -improve sleep ,digestion and energy -restore confidence, clarity, and joy

INTERNAL MEDICATIONS

1)BRAHMI VATI= 1 tab twice daily after meals with milk =enahnces memory, focus and mental calmness

2) ASHWGANDHA CHURNA= 1 tsp with warm water at bedime =reduce cortisol (stress hormone), improves mood and energy

3) JATAMANSI CAPSULE= 1 cap at bedtime =sedative, helps with intrusive thoughts and sleep

4) MANASMITRA VATAKAM= 1 tab at bedtime with milk =comprehensive mind tonic, relieves anxiety and depression

5) SHANKHAPUSHPI SYRUP= 10 ml twice daily after meals =improves mood, memory and reduce overthinknig

EXTERNAL THERAPIES

1) OIL MASSAGE= massage whole body with KSHEERBALA TAILA leave 30 min then take warm bath = calms vata , relieves stress, improves sleep

2) HEAD MASSAGE= massage scalp and forehead with brahmi oil at night = reduces intrusive thoughts

3) NASYA= instill 2 drops of brahmi ghrita in each nostril daily morning =nourishes brain, relieves anxiety, clears negative thoughts

DURATION= 21 days

LIFESTYLE CHANGES -ROUTINE= keep regular sleep wake schedule, avoid late nights and oveerstimulation- social media, news -SUNLIGHT EXPOSURE= morning sun for 15 min- balances mood -AVOID ISOLATION= spend time in nature or with supportive friends/family -DIGITAL DETOX= keep mobile away 1 hour before bed -JOURNALING= write thoughts daily to release mental tension -MUSIC THERAPY= listen to classical , meditative or soft instrumental music

DIET -warm,lightly spiced, freshly cooked meals -cow’s milk with ghee, dates, almonds, and cardamom at bedtime -moong dal khichdi, soups, ad root vegetables (sweet potato, carrots) -fruits= banana, pomegranate, mango in moderation -herbs/spices= cumin, fennel ,turmeric, cardamom

AVOID -cold, stale , processed food -coffee, alcohol, refined sugar -skipping meals or fasting excessivley -raw salads at night increase vata

YOGA AND PRANAYAM -Balasana= deep relaxation and grounding -Viparita karani= improves sleep and calms mind -bhujangasana= opens the heart chakra -paschimottanasana= releases emotional blockages -savasana= deep rest and awareness

PRANAYAM -Nadi sodhana= balances left and right brain clears restlessness -bhramari= calming vibration through humming -ujjayi= improves oxygen flow and mindfullness

MEDITATION -guided or mantra based e.g Om shanti , 10-20 min daily

HOME REMEDIES -warm milk at bedtime= add 1 tsp ghee with pinch of nutmeg for sleep -herbal tea= mix brahmi, tulsi or liquorice drink twice daily -aromatherapy- lavender or sandalwood essential oil for relaxation -oil pulling= helps remove ama and refreshes mind body connection

Emotional wounds heal slowly- just like physical ones. Ayurveda teaches that mind healing is not suppression but transformation- by calming vata, cleansing the mind, and rebuilding inner strength

REMEMBER= you are not your thoughts. Thoughts come and go- your true self is calm, whole and powderful

DO FOLLOW

HOPE THIS MIGHT BE HELPFUL

THANK YOU

DR. MAITRI ACHARYA

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Yes you can take this medicines with SSIR

STRICTLY do not stop your allopathic medicine all of sudden take this along side and when symptoms improve taper your SSIR under supervision

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Thankyou mam and I have one question can I take this medication with SSRI and which I take from last 5 month

IT’S HAPEENS WHILE YOU HAVING SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER BUT WHEN YOUR PARTNER LEAVES YOU WITH OUT RESION…ITS HEARTS AND HAVING SERIOUS DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY OCCURS… I SUGGEST YOU STAY POSITIVE AND FOCUS ON YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND CARRIER…

MANAGEMENT:-

NEUROGHRIT GOLD CAP=1-1 CAP BEFORE MEAL TWICE DAILY

MEDHA VATI STRESSNIL TAB=1-1 TAB AFTER MEAL TWICE DAILY…

SARASWATARIST=4 TSP WITH SMAE AMOUNT OF WATER AT BED TIME

DO MEDITATION= BHRAMRI/ANULOMAVILOM/UDGEETH =10 MIN EACH…ITS VERY HELPFUL FOR YOU

AVOID HOT/SPICY/JUNK FOOD

CONSULT AFTER 20 DAYS…

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Start with Manasmitra vatikam 1-0-1 after food with water Brahmi vati 1-0-1 after food with water Ashwagandha churan 0-0-1tsp at bedtime with warm milk Light massage on head with Brahmi oil Do Nasya with Brahmi grith 2 drops in both nostril once daily Do pranayam lom -vilom bhastrika bhamri 5-10mins daily twice Go for walks in nature and enjoy the nature.

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What your experiencing is very normal during recovery from depression when you start feeling better after a depressive phase, your mind regains energy and along with that old emotional memories, especially painful ones often surface more vividly. This intrusive thoughts about your past relationship or notice that you still want to go back. There are a sign that your mind is still processing. The heart reduction and loss of respect your experienced. It is like your emotions are catching up to what You intellect already knows that you deserve peace and dignity. The best way to handle this is not by fighting the thoughts, but by acknowledging and redirecting them when a memory or image of that person appears tell yourself calmly. Yes, that was a part of my life, but it no longer defines my present, then gently shift your attention to what you’re doing at that moment. Repeatedly doing this trains, your brain to stop looping around the past Practically keep yourself grounded, go for morning walk do deep breathing inhale for four counts, hold it for 8 counts and exile for six Write down your thoughts before bed to release them from your mind In Ayurveda depression with constant thought, turning is linked to disturbed vata so warm stable routines help-eat on time, avoid skipping meals You can take Brahmi vati one tablet twice daily after food with warm milk Manasamitra vatikam one tablet at night with warm milk Shankapuspi churna half teaspoon with warm water after food It is also important to slowly rebuild, joy, and self-worth through small things. Connecting with people listening to soothing music. Practising gratitude. For how far you have come, Healing from emotional pain is not about forgetting someone. It is about remembering yourself again over time. Those intro thoughts will fade naturally as your mind realises it. No longer needs to hold onto that old pain

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1.Manas Mitra Vatakam 1 tab twice daily with milk after meals 2.Ashwagandha Churna 1 tsp twice daily with warm milk after meals 3.Jatamansi Churna 1/2 tsp with honey at bedtime

🧘 Emotional Healing Practices

Daily Routine: - Wake up before 7 AM and avoid daytime naps. - Practice 10 minutes of Bhramari Pranayama and Anulom Vilom. - Evening walk or gentle yoga to release stored emotions. -Engage more and more in playful activities -Spend time with family and friends

Night Ritual: - Warm sesame oil foot massage before bed. - Listen to calming music or guided Yoga Nidra.

Journaling Prompt: - “What am I ready to release today?” Write freely for 5 minutes.

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Change your life goals. Start excercise go to gym keep yourself bzy its the best medicine. Just take this one for stress free sleep 1. Manasmitra vati 2HS at bed time.

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Intrusive thoughts, especially after a breakup, are understandable and can be incredibly distressing. From an Ayurvedic perspective, these thoughts may be linked to an imbalance in the ‘Sadhaka Pitta,’ which governs emotions and the heart.

Firstly, focus on cooling and calming activities to balance Pitta. Avoid overly spicy, salty, sour foods as these can increase Pitta. Instead, eat more sweet, bitter, and astringent taste foods such as leafy greens, cucumber, and fruits like pears or melons. These help in soothing and calming the mind.

Incorporate practices like daily meditation or yoga, which can be particularly helpful in processing emotions and promoting mental clarity. Set aside a consistent time each day for just 10 minutes to practice a simple breathing exercise, such as ‘Nadi Shodhana’ (alternate nostril breathing), which help calm the mind and balances the doshas.

Herbal support can aid in this transition. Consider utilizing herbs like Brahmi or Ashwagandha, which are renowned for their adaptogenic properties, helping to manage stress and enhance cognitive function. You could prepare Brahmi tea by boiling the leaves and drinking it warm, ideally in the late afternoon.

Regular Abhyanga, self-massage with cool, grounding oils like coconut oil, done before a warm bath, can also be beneficial. This practice helps calm the nervous system and promote serenity. Applying Sandalwood oil on the forehead can be grounding and help with mental focus.

Ensure your Agni, or digestive fire, is strong and supports proper digestion of not just food, but emotions too. Avoid eating heavy or late meals, and keep meals regular. Sip warm water throughout the day to assist in detoxification and digestion.

Sleep is another crucial factor. Maintain a consistent sleep schedule, aiming for quality sleep between 10 pm and 6 am. Avoid screens at least an hour before bed, and create a relaxing bedtime routine that might include reading a calming book or listening to soothing music.

If these intrusive thoughts persist, consider seeing a professional Ayurvedic practitioner who can provide personalized care, reflecting your unique balance of the doshas, and guide you through this period.

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Ashwagandha capsule 0-0-1 Medha vati 1-0-1 Saraswathi aristha 20 ml-0- 20 ml with equal water Practice pranayama meditation

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