Struggling with Weight and Gut Health After Difficult Life Events - #43391
I am a 37 years old divorced woman, I was really obese till my intermediate, then after 2007 I controlled my eating habits, added daily walks lost lot of weight. But I had low energy and unhealthy relationship with food. Then after 2014 I started gaining a little, tried to control it, with yo yo dieting, in 2018 started gym,really achieved best shape of my life. But my gut was not healthy. I had lot of bloating and gas problem. In 2022 I got married, had a tough marriage and two miscarriages. My health derailed. My knees and back ache, after my divorce, I had extremely tough years. Mentally. Now I am at my highest weight. 70 kgs. I am unable to loose it. My energy is not stable and gut health is really bad. I have been abused and betrayed multiple times. I don't know if that's a factor too. But am a survivor in general. Even though I came back from suicide attempts. I came back. I am trying to get back my body and health. Please help me please.
How long have you been experiencing digestive issues like bloating and gas?:
- More than 6 monthsHow would you describe your current energy levels throughout the day?:
- LowWhat is your current diet like?:
- Irregular eating patternsDoctor-recommended remedies for this condition


Doctors' responses
It sounds like your journey has been filled with many challenges, both physically and emotionally. In Ayurveda, we examine not only the physical symptoms but also the impact of stress and emotional factors on your health. The weight gain, digestive issues, and joint pains suggest a possible imbalance in Kapha and Vata doshas. These could be contributing to your lingering physical and mental discomfort, leading to yo-yo dieting and digestive complaints.
First, let’s focus on your digestion or Agni. Healthy digestion is fundamental to maintaining weight and overall vitality. Begin by incorporating warm, easy-to-digest foods like khichdi, moong dal soup, or stews into your diet. Spices like cumin, coriander, and fennel can aid digestion and reduce bloating. Drink ginger tea daily to enhance digestive fire, 2 to 3 times in a day after meals. Avoid cold, raw, or processed foods that can aggravate Vata and dampen digestion.
For managing weight and Kapha imbalance, regular, gentle exercises like yoga and brisk walking can be beneficial. Aim for a consistent routine rather than intense bursts of activity, which might exhaust your energy reserves. Engage in practices like Pranayama for stress relief and mental clarity; alternate nostril breathing can be especially calming.
Include daily self-massage with warm sesame oil to soothe Vata and relieve joint pain. Apply it in circular motions, focusing on your aching knees and back, then follow up with a warm shower. Sleep early and wake up around sunrise to sync with natural rhythms.
Emphasizing mindfulness around eating can also reduce emotional eating patterns. Practice eating without distractions, taking time to savor food and recognizing hunger cues. This can aid in cultivating a healthier relationship with food over time.
Lastly, unresolved emotional trauma can affect physical well-being significantly. Consider seeking support through counseling or meditation groups, focusing on healing past wounds. Construct a supportive community around you. It’s important to be patient with yourself as you work towards balance and well-being.

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