Seeking Help for Hypersexuality and Relationship Improvement - #47357

Hi Sir please describe more about your problem

I HAVE READ YOUR CONCERN CAREFULLY AND I RESPECT YOUR HONESTY AND YOUR INTENTION TO IMPROVE YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE YOUR DESIRE TO SEEK BALANCE RATHER THAN SUPPRESSION IS IMPORTANT AND HEALTHY

FROM AN AYURVEDIC CLINICAL VIEW THIS CONDITION IS MOSTLY RELATED TO VATA AND PITTA IMBALANCE WITH MENTAL OVERSTIMULATION AND WEAK CONTROL OF INDREYAS OVER TIME THIS DOES NOT MEAN ANY MORAL FAILURE IT IS A FUNCTIONAL STATE OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEM AND MIND THAT CAN BE CORRECTED WITH DISCIPLINE ROUTINE AND SUPPORTIVE THERAPY

THE FACT THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS STRONG AND SUPPORTIVE IS A MAJOR POSITIVE FACTOR AND WILL HELP RECOVERY

FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT PRINCIPLE IS REGULARITY IN DAILY ROUTINE PROPER SLEEP AND A SATTVIC MINDSET WITHOUT GUILT OR SELF HATRED

FOOD GUIDANCE NON VEGETARIAN FOOD LIKE CHICKEN CAN INCREASE RAJAS AND SEXUAL URGE IN SOME INDIVIDUALS IF TAKEN FREQUENTLY YOU DO NOT NEED TO FEEL GUILTY BUT YOU SHOULD REDUCE FREQUENCY AND AVOID NIGHT TIME CONSUMPTION PREFER WARM COOKED SIMPLE VEGETARIAN FOOD AVOID VERY SPICY FRIED SOUR AND STIMULATING FOODS AVOID ALCOHOL AND EXCESS TEA OR COFFEE

SLEEP AND LIFESTYLE SLEEP BEFORE TEN THIRTY PM AVOID LATE NIGHT SCREEN USE AVOID PORNOGRAPHIC CONTENT COMPLETELY AS IT STRONGLY AGGRAVATES THIS CONDITION ENGAGE IN MORNING WALK OR LIGHT YOGA DAILY

MENTAL DISCIPLINE DO NOT FIGHT THE MIND AGGRESSIVELY WHEN URGES ARISE SHIFT ATTENTION TO BREATHING WALKING OR PRAYER REGULAR PRAYER MEDITATION OR MANTRA JAPA IS VERY HELPFUL

AYURVEDIC MEDICINES WITH DOSE

ASHWAGANDHA CHURNA HALF TEASPOON AT NIGHT WITH WARM MILK

SHATAVARI CHURNA HALF TEASPOON IN THE MORNING WITH WARM MILK

BRAHMI VATI ONE TABLET TWICE DAILY AFTER FOOD

SARASWATARISHTA TWENTY ML TWICE DAILY AFTER FOOD WITH EQUAL WARM WATER

KAMADUGHA RASA ONE TABLET ONCE DAILY IN THE MORNING

GUDUCHI SATTVA FIVE HUNDRED MG TWICE DAILY WITH WARM WATER

GHEE ONE TEASPOON DAILY WITH LUNCH

EXTERNAL SUPPORT ABHYANGA WITH WARM SESAME OIL OR KSHIRABALA OIL THREE TIMES A WEEK IN THE MORNING FOLLOWED BY WARM WATER BATH

MARITAL GUIDANCE MAINTAIN OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR WIFE WITHOUT SHAME FOCUS ON EMOTIONAL INTIMACY NOT JUST PHYSICAL EXPRESSION REDUCE FREQUENCY AND BRING REGULARITY RATHER THAN COMPLETE AVOIDANCE

IMPORTANT NOTE THIS IS A REVERSIBLE FUNCTIONAL CONDITION NOT A PERMANENT DISORDER IMPROVEMENT IS SEEN GRADUALLY OVER WEEKS AND MONTHS CONSISTENCY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN CHANGING MEDICINES

YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS AND SEEKING HELP ITSELF SHOWS SELF CONTROL AND MATURITY WITH DISCIPLINE PROPER SUPPORT AND PATIENCE YOU CAN ACHIEVE MENTAL CALM BETTER SELF CONTROL AND A HEALTHY BALANCED MARITAL LIFE

Thank you for sharing this honestly and with the intention to improve yourself and your relationship with your wife .The desire to change and become more balanced for a healthier married life itself shows maturity responsibility and self awareness .This concern is not a character flaw and it is not something to feel ashamed about It reflects an internal imbalance that can be corrected with proper understanding discipline and consistent care.

When increased sexual urge continues for many months, without any specific trigger .ACC to ayurveda this is due to disturbance of the nervous system ,mental regulation ,hormones ,digestion and lifestyle rhythm .Sexual desire is governed not only by reproductive organs but also by the mind ,sleep ,digestion ,daily routine and emotional state. When these systems are disturbed desire can become excessive repetitive and difficult to regulate even when emotional bonding with the spouse is strong.

In Ayurvedic terms this condition commonly reflects imbalance of Vata and Pitta dosha with disturbance of Manovaha srotas and Shukra dhatu This does not always mean weakness ,it means overheating overstimulation or instability of the reproductive and nervous system channels When the mind is restless and digestion and sleep are not well regulated the nervous system seeks repeated stimulation and sexual urge becomes an outlet

The fact that your relationship with your wife is strong and supportive is a very positive sign This confirms that the issue is not due to emotional dissatisfaction but due to internal physiological and mental imbalance which can be corrected

Food habits play an important role You mentioned eating chicken Non vegetarian food especially when taken frequently increases internal heat and rajasic stimulation This can aggravate sexual urges particularly when digestion is not strong Evening or night intake worsens this effect It is advisable to reduce frequency and keep meals light warm and easy to digest

Daily diet should include freshly prepared warm meals taken at regular times Avoid excess spicy oily fried sour fermented packaged and very stimulating foods Include cooked vegetables rice wheat moong dal milk ghee soaked almonds dates and mild spices Proper digestion naturally stabilises sexual energy

Late nights ,irregular sleep and screen exposure at night directly increase mental restlessness and sexual urge .The nervous system needs deep rest for self control Sleeping early and reducing mobile phone exposure before bed has a strong calming effect.

Mental overstimulation also plays a role Repeated visual stimulation fantasy thinking or excessive screen use trains the mind into a cycle of craving Reducing this is not suppression but retraining the nervous system

Physical activity should be balanced Too little movement causes stagnation while excessive intense exercise increases internal heat Daily walking gentle stretching and grounding activity help redistribute excess energy

Breathing practices are very effective Slow deep breathing helps calm the nervous system When urges arise shifting attention to breath reduces intensity naturally

From an Ayurvedic treatment perspective the aim is to calm the mind stabilise the nervous system cool excess heat and support reproductive tissue in a balanced way rather than stimulating it

Medha vati should be taken twice daily This supports mental stability improves control over thoughts and reduces compulsive tendencies It helps strengthen intellect and emotional regulation

Shankapuspi syrup ten millilitres twice daily is very helpful for calming the mind reducing mental restlessness anxiety and repetitive thoughts It supports balanced nerve signaling and emotional steadiness

Ashwagandhadi lehyam one teaspoon at night helps stabilise the nervous system improve sleep quality and support overall strength without overstimulating sexual desire when used in correct dose

Hingwastaka churna half teaspoon twice daily after food supports digestion because weak digestion indirectly increases sexual restlessness Proper digestion plays a key role in regulating urges

Along with medicines regular practice of pranayama and meditation is essential Slow deep breathing anulom vilom and simple meditation help calm the nervous system and redirect excessive mental energy Consistency is more important than duration

Oil application to the soles of the feet with warm sesame oil helps ground excess energy and calm the nervous system This should be done gently without force.

It is important not to judge yourself harshly, Guilt ,shame or forceful suppression worsens the cycle .

Open respectful communication with your wife also supports healing When the mind is free from secrecy and fear urges reduce naturally

If symptoms remain severe, it is advisable to rule out hormonal imbalance ,thyroid issues or medication related effects through appropriate evaluation.

With proper lifestyle disciplined routine , Ayurvedic medicines ,pranayama meditation and patience this condition can be corrected .You are not broken and this is completely manageable with the right approach.

Do concentrate on other works like on ur duty,do travel, don’t stay lonely, roaming out side

Take manasamithra vatakam 1tab bd, shankapushi syrup 20ml bd enough

Hello It’s really cool of you to be so open and honest about wanting to improve things with your wife. That’s a great sign of how much you care about your relationship. The good news is, dealing with hypersexuality isn’t about some character flaw; it’s usually just your body and mind being a bit out of sync. We can definitely get that back on track.

YOUR CONCERN

–The Issue:- Too many sexual thoughts and urges (hypersexuality). –How Long: Over six months. –Triggers: You haven’t noticed any specific ones –Diet: You eat chicken. –Relationship: You have a really strong, supportive marriage. That’s fantastic! –Your Goal: To have more self-control, feel more peaceful, and have healthier intimacy with your wife.

The fact that your marriage is so solid is a huge plus. It tells me this is more about your body and mind, not some emotional problem in your relationship.

AYURVEDIC UNDERSTANDING

In Ayurveda, issues like these often come from: Pitta + Vata Imbalance: –Pitta means too much heat, stimulation, and desire. –Vata brings restlessness, thoughts going around and around, and feeling out of control.

Rajo Guna Being Too High: This means your mind is restless. It struggles to calm down, and you feel overstimulated by your senses.

Shukra Dhatu Being Overactive: This isn’t about being weak; it’s about being overly excited. Things like eating non-veg, staying up late, too much screen time, sexual content, and stress can make it worse.

Important: This isn’t about you lacking morals or willpower. It’s a real neuro-hormonal imbalance that can be fixed.

TREATMENT GOALS

–To calm those sexual urges (not unnaturally stop them). –To get better mental control and clarity. –To change that excess sexual energy into a more stable, grounded feeling. –To keep intimacy with your wife healthy and respectful. – To feel more satisfied, not driven by compulsion.

AYURVEDIC PLAN OF TREATMENT

INTERNAL MEDICATION

1.Brahmi Vati (plain): Take 1 tablet after dinner. (Helps your mind calm down, lessens obsessive thoughts, and helps with self-control.)

2.Ashwagandha Churna: Take ½ teaspoon at night with warm milk or water. ( Balances hormones, reduces over-stimulation, and helps your emotions feel more stable.)

3.Shatavari Churna: Take ½ teaspoon in the morning with warm milk or water. ( Helps regulate Shukra dhatu, cools down excess Pitta, and helps you feel more satisfied.)

Stay away from any sex booster type medicines. They’ll just make things worse.

YOUR. DAILY ROUTINE (This is really key):

Breathing Exercises (Pranayama): Do these daily on an empty stomach. * Nadi Shodhana: 10 minutes. * Bhramari: 7 rounds. (These directly help calm that sexual over-excitement.)

Meditation: Do 10–15 minutes. * Focus on your breath or a mantra. * Avoid meditations that involve a lot of imagination.

YOUR DIET PLAN (So important for control):

✅INCLUDE * Warm, simple meals. * Rice, wheat, moong dal. * Milk, ghee (just a little). * Fruits like pomegranate and apple. * Coconut water (2–3 times a week).

❌AVOID * Chicken, red meat (this is a big one!). * Eggs (if you can skip them). * Super spicy or fried foods. * Alcohol. * Eating late at night. * Looking at sexual content (even if you don’t realize it, this is a major trigger).

Why cutting out non-veg helps: Non-veg food increases Rajo guna and Pitta, which makes urges stronger.

LIFESTYLE AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

–Focus on emotional intimacy with your wife, not just physical. –Don’t blame yourself or feel guilty. –Keep talking openly with your wife (you’ve already got a good thing going there, use it!). –Channel your energy into other things: * Walking * Yoga * Creative hobbies * Any physical activity

You are absolutely: – Normal – Not weak. – Not beyond change.

This kind of issue really responds well to Ayurveda when you’re gentle and consistent with the treatment.

Warm Regards Dr. Snehal Vidhate

Take brahmi 2 bd Take livtone 2 bd Take chadraprabhavati 2 bd

You need to remain in satvik environment, more turning your interest towards spiritual life. Avoid nonveg food as high degree of tamasic aggravation. Go on vegetarian diet atleast for 1 month and observe the difference Start with Brahmi vati 1-0-1 after food with water Ashwagandha churan 0-0-1tsp at bedtime with warm milk. Do pranayam lom -vilom bhastrika bhamri 5-10mins twice daily Learn Rajyoga meditation and practice daily. Divert your mind into some hobby you would enjoy.

1 Open honest communication with your wife , share your struggle and desire to change. Her support will be your biggest strength. 2 Avoid all porn/masturbation for at least 90 days. 3 Channel energy , increase physical exercise (gym, running, sports) 45–60 min daily + cold showers when urges come.

Fix sleep – 10 PM – 6 AM strictly (poor sleep worsens urges).

Ayurvedic Medicines (safe & effective for reducing hypersexuality) 1 Confido (Himalaya) – 1 tablet twice daily after food (best for controlling urges & calming mind) 2 Ashwagandha Lehyam – 10 gm night with warm milk (reduces stress & balances hormones) 3 Brahmi Vati – 1 tablet night (calms overactive mind & sexual thoughts)

Diet & Lifestyle Reduce non-veg (especially chicken/mutton) for 2–3 months, it increases heat & passion in Ayurveda. Eat more cooling foods: moong dal, rice, ghee, pomegranate, cucumber, coconut water.

Avoid: spicy, fried, caffeine after 4 PM, alcohol.

Regards Dr Gursimran Jeet Singh MD Panchakarma