Im not interested for intercourse. My husband daily asking. But, im not interested. - #729
If my husband forcely do. I cam spend only 2min for him. He is un happy with me.what can i do...........
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Open communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to sensitive issues like intimacy. I encourage you to have an honest, calm conversation with your husband to understand each other’s needs and expectations. Approach this discussion with openness and empathy, letting him know how you feel, and give him space to express his feelings as well. Make it a conversation about strengthening your connection and exploring ways to build intimacy together.
In Ayurveda, a lack of interest or energy in intimacy can often be linked to imbalances in Vata or Kapha doshas, which can affect physical and mental vitality. Consider incorporating foods that nourish and strengthen the body and mind, such as whole grains, nuts, seeds, and warm, cooked vegetables. Additionally, adaptogenic herbs like Ashwagandha and Shatavari are well-known for their rejuvenating and vitality-boosting properties. Ashwagandha, in particular, is often used to relieve stress, improve energy levels, and support overall stamina. Shatavari is also beneficial for supporting feminine health, hormonal balance, and emotional well-being.
If you experience any fatigue or stress that affects your desire or enjoyment, practices like yoga and meditation can be very helpful. Yoga asanas like Bhujangasana (Cobra pose) and Paschimottanasana (Seated Forward Bend) are beneficial for improving blood circulation and grounding energy. Simple breathing exercises (Pranayama) can also help calm the mind and rejuvenate your energy levels, which can positively impact your relationship.
It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now. It’s so important that you’re feeling safe and heard in your relationship. Let’s talk a bit about what could be happening for you with a focus on ayurvedic perspectives.
In Ayurveda, sexual desire can be influenced by various factors like dosha imbalances or lifestyle stress. You might be experiencing a kapha imbalance – often it dulls desire and energy levels. Maybe your mind can’t relax, or feeling hurried and pressured is taking away from intimacy being enjoyable. First off, addressing stress and relaxation could be a key. Breathing exercises or Pranayama help regulate the nervous system, bringing calmness and connecting with inner desires over time.
Try waking up with 15 minutes of deep, slow breathing in the morning. Lie down and gently breathe in for 4 seconds and out for 6. Imagine releasing tension with every exhalation. This everyday practice can slowly ease tensions.
Another important thing is food. Heavy foods, too much sweet, oily, can increase Kapha dosha making you feel dull or disinterested. Favor lighter foods—try having warm, spiced tea with ginger or cinnamon to ignite agni or digestive fire. It balances energy levels too. Evening meals should be light and comforting. perhaps a vegetable soup with cumin and black pepper.
And then, consider introducing Shatavari, an ayurvedic herb thats wonderful for women. It nourishes the reproductive system and supports sexual health. Take about a teaspoon daily mixed with warm milk or water but check with an ayurvedic doctor near you before starting any herbs. Yeah and, depending on your location, it might be more available in capsule form, that’s usually okay too.
Talk openly with your husband too, let him know what’s going on for you inside, it’s important for him to hear. Mutual understanding helps a lot. And always prioritize communication, both of your feelings matter. If things stay hard, you might wanna look for professional guidance or counselling. Take care of yourself, that’s most important.

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