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By over stimulation of vagina by own for satisfaction... I'm not getting squirting or satisfaction pleasure by sex with my husband... Clitoris became rough and became loose vagina - #21988
Krishna
I'm not getting final satisfaction with sex, Not squirting in sex because of I'm addicted to vaginal stimulation and self finger satisfaction from 5 years, after returning my husband from foreign I'm not able to squirt properly as much as by fingering by own, I think my vagina is addicted and got rough by over stimulation by my own... And my vagina is getting loose and not satisfying even my partner I'm near to divorce I have 1 child please suggest some solutions
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Thank you for trusting this platform with such a deeply personal concern. I want you to know that you’re not alone—many women silently face similar challenges, and the fact that you’re seeking help shows strength and self-awareness.
From an Ayurvedic perspective, excessive self-stimulation over a long period can disturb the natural balance of Apana Vata, which governs the reproductive system, leading to issues like reduced sensitivity, vaginal dryness, looseness, or lack of satisfaction.
Here’s an Ayurvedic approach to restore your feminine health, sensitivity, and overall confidence:
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Ashwagandha and Shatavari churna - 1/4 th tsp with warm milk at night
Dashamoola kashaya-: 1 tsp with warm water
Drink warm milk with a pinch of saffron and cardamom at night
Practice Yoni Abhyanga (gentle vaginal and pelvic massage externally) using Bala taila or Ksheerabala taila.
Yoni steaming (Nadi sweda) with herbs like Triphala, neem, and rose petals—2 times a week.
Practice Moola Bandha (pelvic lock) and Yoni Mudra daily—these are yogic exercises to tone and awaken the vaginal muscles.
Kegel exercises also help in regaining strength and tightening the vaginal canal.
Intimacy is not only physical—it is emotional and energetic. Past over-stimulation may have desensitized your responses, but they can be revived through trust-building, open communication, and slow re-sensitization with your partner.
Reignite your bond with touch therapy, mutual massage, and deep breathing together before intimacy.
Cold and dry foods Overthinking, guilt,and stress
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What's ur age? Menstrual history?
Thyroid profile?
Under any medication?
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Krishna
Client
44 days ago
My age is 30 yrs madam
Krishna
Client
44 days ago
My age is 30 yrs
No thyroid
My menstrual cycle is exact and good
No any under medication madam🙏🏻
Some special sex positions will be helpful
You need to discuss your situation with your husband
His co operation is important
Some specific pelvic exercises will also be helpful
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Need to reduce self stimulation and enjoy sexual act with your husband
Can apply virgin coconut oil in vaginal area will help soften the vaginal area and improve sensitivity.
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Krishna
Client
44 days ago
30 years madam
Go for panchkarma and naturopathy TRETMENT
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Krishna
Client
44 days ago
Panchakarma in which treatment sir?
After childbirth, plus possible overstimulation, the vaginal muscles may feel looser or less responsive. To the normal sexual touches also, emotional and relationship stress can block orgasm and squirting.
Acc. To me -Pause vaginal self-stimulation for at least some weeks,and Reconnect with Your Body and talk to your partner for this.
2.Focus on non-genital pleasure: breast, back, neck with your partner.
#Kegel exercises can help in vaginal tightning. doing 10 cycles a day
Vaginal massage through bala tail can be done for tighting 5min twice a day( tell your partner to do).
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Buy a cotton based tampon soak it in bala taila or gambhari taila and then instert in vagina for 2 hours a day or until u feel like urinating, post removal do a gentle massage in those areas. An refrain from self stimulation.
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You can start shilajit rasayana Ashwagandha capsule/
1 tab twice daily after food with lukewarm milk
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Ksheerabala taila yoni pichu
Under the supervision of ayurveda physician will help you.
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Slowly try to stop self stimulating
And for loose and dry vagina
You can buy a tampoon and dip it in shatavari tailam and keep it in vagina for 2 hours
Then remove it and wash with plain lukewarm water
Just try to communicate with your partner what's happening It will help
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• Reduce or Restrict Self Stimulation Manipulation for Few Days
• Extend Foreplay.Try to Wait Till Full Arousal.No Hurries of Getting Climax
• Have Good Emotional Connection with Partner
• Communicate and Discuss issue with Partner and Ur Family Gynae. •Understand each Other Coperate Each Other Compliment Each Other Help Mutually .
• Try Different Sexual Positions.Try Few of them will work
• Shatavari Lehyam+ Ashwagandha Lehyam 2 Tsf Each Once a Day with 1 Glass of Luke Warm Milk/Water
• Yoni Pichu with Ksheerbala Tailam
• Kegel's Exercise and Pelvic Floor Excercise
• Reduce Stress Stay Positive and Be Realx
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Understanding your experience requires a personalized approach. It sounds like you're facing a complex issue that might be affecting not just your physical health, but also your emotional connection with your spouse. In Ayurveda, imbalances in the body can indeed affect sexual health, and these might be linked with your doshas.
Firstly, consider balancing your Vata dosha, as over-stimulation often heightens this energy. Incorporate warm, grounding foods into your diet, like cooked grains, root vegetables, and legumes. Spices such as cumin and ginger can aid your digestive fire, known as agni. This may improve energy flow throughout the body.
Practicing pelvic floor exercises, commonly known as Kegel exercises, can help to strengthen vaginal muscles, perhaps improving sensations for you and your partner. Try to commit to a routine, doing these exercises 2-3 times daily.
Abhyanga (self-massage) with warm, sesame oil can soothe your nervous system and improve circulation. Gently massage your whole body before taking a warm bath or shower. It's relaxing, nurturing and supports the balance of Vata, calming the nervous system.
Ensure you're hydrated and eat at regular intervals. This maintains your body's fluid balance, potentially aiding natural lubrication.
Avoid self-stimulating practices for a while, allowing your body and mind to attune to different forms of intimacy. Engage in activities that foster connection with your partner, like shared hobbies, or simply spending time together without distractions.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, it would be beneficial to seek help from a qualified therapist or counselor. Sometimes these issues intertwine deeply with mental well-being, and having professional support can offer new perspectives and paths forward.
Lastly, if you're ever in discomfort or uncertainty, don't hesitate in reaching out to a healthcare professional locally. Prioritizing your overall health will ultimately support both satisfaction in your relationship and personal well-being.
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