Understanding Lack of Enjoyment in Sexual Intercourse - #47998

This is usually psychological, emotional, or hormonal, not a physical defect. Possible reasons Anxiety, fear, guilt, past negative experiences Lack of emotional connection or feeling unsafe Overthinking or pressure to “perform” Hormonal imbalance, stress, fatigue Not enough clitoral stimulation (very common)

What she can do Relax, remove pressure, focus on comfort not performance Communicate openly with partner Explore what feels good (self-awareness helps) Improve sleep, reduce stress, balanced diet If it continues, consult a gynecologist or sex therapist

Hello First off, thanks for bringing this up so openly. Honestly, what you’re describing happens way more often than people think. It doesn’t mean there’s anything “wrong” with her.

Let’s break it down:

She’s 22. She gets aroused, she can orgasm, and sometimes she even squirts. No pain, no discomfort. Stress isn’t really a factor. But even with all that, she doesn’t actually feel much emotional pleasure or satisfaction during sex. This has been going on for more than a year.

So, her body’s on board, but her mind and emotions haven’t quite caught up.

Why does this happen?

1. Pleasure isn’t the same as orgasm. A lot of people mix these up. Just because someone has an orgasm doesn’t mean they enjoyed themselves. Real enjoyment comes from feeling emotionally safe, being present, wanting it, feeling wanted, relaxed, and connected. You can go through the motions and still not feel much.

2. Emotional or psychological disconnect. Even if stress seems low, there might be other things going on. Maybe she’s worried about “doing it right,” or she can’t stop overthinking. Sometimes, it’s just hard to really let go. Maybe sex feels like something she should do, not something she wants. This is called sexual dissociation—when you’re physically there but not really feeling it.

3. Not enough clitoral-focused pleasure. For a lot of women, penetration on its own doesn’t do the trick. You can have an orgasm and still feel flat if the experience is rushed, all about the goal, or missing longer foreplay. Emotional pleasure often gets left behind.

4. Hormones and brain chemistry. Even with normal cycles, low dopamine or oxytocin can make it hard to really enjoy sex—even if she’s getting aroused physically.

5. Old beliefs or conditioning. Sometimes, stuff like guilt, cultural messages, or fear of letting go can block enjoyment. It doesn’t mean there’s trauma—sometimes these things just stick around in the background.

What can help?

1. Focus on sensation, not just orgasm. Instead of asking, “Did I like it?” try paying attention to touch, warmth, breath, and other body sensations. Take away the pressure to climax.

2. Make foreplay longer and safer emotionally. Try 15–30 minutes of foreplay. Make eye contact, slow things down, use gentle touch, talk openly, and make sure she feels wanted—not rushed. Emotional enjoyment often comes first.

3. Figure out what her body likes. Self-exploration helps. What kind of touch feels good? Once she knows, it’s easier to share that with her partner. Lots of women find sex way more enjoyable after they understand what works for them.

4. Mind–body practices. Deep breathing, yoga (especially hip-openers), body awareness, and mindfulness can really help reconnect mind and body.

5. If she wants, talk to a professional. A counselor (not just a doctor) can help figure out any mental blocks, work on communication, and bring pleasure back. This isn’t about fixing something broken—it’s about taking care of yourself.

Should she see a doctor? Only if she suddenly gets vaginal dryness, pain, loses arousal, or her mood shifts a lot. Otherwise, this isn’t really a medical issue.

And most importantly—

She’s not abnormal. She’s not broken. This is super common, especially for young women. Enjoyment is something you can learn and build with time, safety, and understanding.

Sexual enjoyment isn’t just about what’s happening physically. It’s about feeling safe, present, connected, and relaxed.

Take care, Dr. Snehal Vidhate

Thank you for sharing this openly I want to reassure you that what you are experiencing is common and does not indicate any physical problem with your body

Even though orgasm or squirting occurs enjoyment during intercourse involves both mind and body It is possible to have physical release without emotional satisfaction

This may be related to mind body connection nervous system sensitivity or sexual conditioning rather than hormonal or medical issue

You should focus on self exploration first Spend time learning what kind of touch pressure rhythm or sensation feels good to you Explore masturbation without pressure to perform or finish

Communication with partner is important You can express what you like and what feels neutral or unpleasant Slow playful and relaxed sexual experiences help connect mind and body

Sensory focus and staying present in the moment increases enjoyment Breathing slowly noticing touch and gentle movements are very helpful

Ayurvedic support for nervous system and reproductive tissue can be given Ashwagandha powder half teaspoon at night with warm milk or water Shatavari powder half teaspoon once daily These strengthen nerves tissues and support emotional balance

Gentle pelvic exercises yoga and meditation support mind body coordination and increase pleasure response

Avoid guilt shame or comparison with others Stress even if subtle can block enjoyment

If after several months of self exploration and gentle support enjoyment does not improve consultation with a sexual health professional experienced in female sexual wellbeing may be considered

With patience awareness and gentle practice most young women regain full connection with sexual pleasure even if orgasms or squirting were occurring without enjoyment

✅ What She Can Do - Medical Check‑up: Rule out hormonal imbalances (thyroid, PCOS, estrogen/testosterone levels). - Mindful Sexuality: Practice focusing on sensations, slowing down, and removing performance pressure. - Communication: Talk openly with partner about what feels good emotionally, not just physically. - Self‑exploration: Solo exploration can help understand what truly feels pleasurable beyond orgasm.

- Holistic supports: Ayurveda: Ashwagandha (½ tsp with warm milk at night) for vitality and mood. - Shatavari: (½ tsp with milk daily) for hormonal balance and lubrication. - Yoga: Bhujangasana, Setubandhasana, and pranayama for pelvic circulation.

⚠️ Important Note - Lack of enjoyment does not mean something is “wrong” with her body. - It’s often about emotional connection, expectations, or subtle hormonal shifts. - If this persists, consulting a gynecologist or sex therapist can provide clarity.

Warm Regards DR. ANJALI SEHRAWAT

This is more a psycological condition which could be a representation of some past experiences or trauma. Correction of diet, lifestyle and some medicines paired together will help.

About squirting and orgasims these are normal body events which are out of emotional control and are a result of physical stimulation.

Diet and Nutrition 1. Balanced diet: Focus on whole, unprocessed foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. 2. Foods rich in antioxidants: Include foods high in antioxidants like berries, leafy greens, and nuts to help reduce oxidative stress. 3. Omega-3 fatty acids: Find omega-3 rich foods like fatty fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts to support heart health.

Exercise and Physical Activites 1. Regular exercise: Engage in moderate-intensity exercise, like brisk walking, cycling, or swimming, for at least 30 minutes a day. 2. Pelvic floor exercises: Practice Kegel exercises to strengthen pelvic floor muscles.

Stress Management 1. Mindfulness and relaxation: Try techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or yoga to reduce stress and anxiety. 2. Get enough sleep: Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep per night to help regulate hormones and reduce stress. 3. Practise yogasan: Molband, setu bandhasan, chakrasan, veer bhadrasan, halasan, gomukhasan.

Other Lifestyle changes 1. Quit smoking 2. Limit alcohol consumption 3. Maintain a healthy weight

💊Medication💊

Cap. Memorine 2 caps twice a day before food. Cap. Femigen 2 Caps twice a day before food.

Shwet Musli Pak 1 tsp with a cup of hot cow milk in the morning

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