Question #22001
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How to resolve self loathing? - #22001
Draff
I hate myself very much. I wish I was never born. Subconsciously I cuss myself everyday. How do I solve this? My sleep schedule is fucked, I have no real friends and I can hardly trust people. Is there any end to this?
Age: 18
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Hello Friend Draff
" Life is Precious Comes Once
Enjoy ! Entertain ! Elaborate ! for Good Purposes "
• Do Good with Urself.Love Urself.
• Accpet Urself as U R .Hold On Urself.These are Precious Life Lessons ur Learning in Tender Age now.
• Try To Be Kind with Urself.Have Mercy towards urself.
• Help Urself Get Out of This Situation .Ur Only Person Can Help Urself out of this Situation.
• Be Affermative.Keep Positive Approach always.Convert Negative thought in to Positive.Talk with Urself Positive like" I m Feeling Positive " My Mind is Getting Calm " I m feeling Peaceful" U mind Doesn't Differentiate What u thik it assumes and shows same picture.
• Keep Writing Ur Strength on Page Everyday.Keep always reminding those
• Plan ur Routine Work Study Wisely.Follow Them Honestly
• Visualise Good Things Happening ur Life is Changing second by second
• Youngage Urself in Hobbies Singing Dancing etc Work Social Helps Charity works etc Mind Attention Games .Always keep ur Busy with Work
• Be Social and Create Positive Friends Circles without selfishness and Expectations.
• Read Motivational Books Stories.Keep Ur Ideals Higher.
• Volunteer ur Time for Needy And Good Purposes
• Deep Breathing and Exhale Slowly in Panicness Anxiety
• Prefer Highly Nutritious Diet All Leafy Vegetable Fruits salads sprouts Fibers etc Drink Plenty of Water Fluids Juices Approximately 3 Liters Per Day.
• Avoid Acidic Spicy Salty Sour Masala Fried Fast Juck Foods Stimulants like Tea Coffee Carbonated beverages etc
• Do Meditation Dhyan Relaxing Yogas Anumol Vilom Pranayama
• Good Physical Activities Exercise Outdoor Sports etc
• Safe Effective Ayurvedic Medicines
* For Stress :- Tab
Ashwagandha 250 mg 1 - 0 - 1 After Food
* For Sound Sleep :- Tab.Tagar 250 0-0- 1 After Food
REGARDS
Dr Arun Desai
God Bless You 😊🙏
If you have any questions u can ask me .U have Text Option here .I will Answer u to The levels of ur satisfaction.
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Start doing meditation pranayama daily
Take Medha vati-
Brahmi vati-
1 tab twice daily after food with warm milk
Saraswathi aristha-
4 teaspoon with equal quantity of water twice daily after food
Apply black dot both thumbs below nail daily for 4 hours
You will see wonderful results
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Hello Draff
Please dont curse youself. You are the only one which will bring you out from this. We have trust, love, praise ourself first then only we can trust and love others. I dont know to what extend I can help you... But you have to try and indulge positivity, ray of hope in you...
Start slow... Try to do this one by one... I know it will be difficult for you but keep moving towards healing both mentally, psychologically and subconciously
1. Maintain a diary and write all good things about you... Even if you feel you are not good in that.
2. Tell affirmative sentences to yourself like
" i am most helpful person, i am most good looking, i m most confident person i can do whatever i want n all
3. Whenever negetive thoughts come to your mind, take a deep breath and think of one perosn, one god or any thing you have faith in
4. Do pranyanam daily
5. Indulge yourself in the things you like to do... It can be anything drawing, cooking, reading, watching tv series, movies anything
6. Keep your mind always busy in some or other things
INTERNAL MEDICATION
This medication will help to keep your mind calm and fresh
1. Kalyanka ghritha 1 tsp morning empty stomach followed by warm water
2. S. G. Tab 2-0-2 after food
3. Brahmi tab 2-0-2 after food
4. Mahapaischaika ghrita 1 tsp at bed time follwed by warm water
I WILL STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU TO GO FOR PANCHAKARMA THERAPY ALONG WITH PROPER COUNSELLING
1. Shirodhara
2. Sarvanga abhynga
3. Steam
Apply ksheerbala oil on head half hour before bath
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Daily write on paper 108 times one positive affirmations : I am a pure soul,/ I am happy soul/ I am lovable soul/ / I am powerful soul ...
Creat all positive thoughts to your self
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In contd...
Do pranayam lom -vilom bhastrika bhamri 5-10mins daily
Go on a nature walk
Learn Rajyoga meditation and practice daily
Take Brahmi vati 1-0-1
Ashwagandha 1-0-1
After food with water
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It’s okay to feel brokenn sometimes. What matters is that healing is possible.
immediate things you can do to start moving toward relief:
1. Talk to Someone You Can Trust.
2. Start with One Small Change
3. Practice Rewriting the Inner Voice
4.you said your sleep is messed up—it can feel impossible to fix when your mind is heavy. Try:
1.No screens 30 mins before bed
2.start listning to soft music.
Start - puting anutail into nostril at night
* Tab.Sleepwell tablet 2-0-2
* Bramhi vati 2-0-2
* Oiling your hair with covonut oil.
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You are big issues and you are aware if it and wants a solution that is a good start.
I just want to say to
Be positive
Think good.
Do yoga
Meditation
Eat healthy
Concentrate on a specific habit
Any thing
Reading books
Planting
Watch feel good movies
Swimming if u know swimming
If possible meet a psychologist
Hope u will get solution soon
All the best
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Hey draff dnt be so negative you are just 18 year old it's a beginning of your happy life ..DNT be negative always positive..listen soleful songs/chanting om every day/regular do meditation incan PRESCIBE some helpful medication
RX... Neuroghrit gold tab 2-2 tab before meal twice daily
Medha vati
Ashwagandha cap
Manasmritika vatakam=1-1 tab after meal twice daily
Badam rogan nasya every morning and evening
Anulom vilom/bhramri/ujjyayi pranayama every day
Frindship with positive peoples
Stay away from negativity and negative persons
You can cured on day
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Hi,
Sometimes things never happens as we want ,but it doesn't mean u have to go against your self respect ,
Don't curse urself ,so many people feel this feeling in their lifetime .
If you r so heavy consult with counsellor ,visit psychiatrist.
Give yourself time to heal from trumas might you faced .
affirm positive about situation and self
Work on your self ...
Focus on new hobbies
Try to talk with frends you trust without having much expectations
-Apply brahmi oil on your head and feet before bedtime and gentle massage
-Saraswatarisht 15ml with warm water twice
If Any other questions u may ask
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Take
Mahakalyanak ghrut 10g OD empty stomach
Brahmi vati 2----0----2
Always remember
Life is Beautiful gift of God
Make others Happy
Help other without any favour
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Thank you for having the courage to express what you’re feeling. Please know that you are not alone, and there is a path toward healing. In Ayurveda, we believe that the body, mind, and soul are deeply interconnected. When the mind is overwhelmed, the doshas—especially Vata—go out of balance, leading to anxiety, insomnia, emotional isolation, and hopelessness.
What you are experiencing is not your fault. It is your body and mind’s way of saying: “I need care, love, and grounding.”
Take
1. Brahmi vati- 1 tab twice daily after food
2.Ashwagandha capsule- one cap daily
Wake up before 7 AM (even if your sleep is disturbed, just sit in morning sunlight for 10–15 minutes).
Abhyanga (self-oil massage) with warm sesame oil daily
Drink warm water with turmeric and tulsi in the morning.
Light a small lamp (diya) or incense and sit in silence or chant ‘So Hum’ mantra for 5 minutes.
Avoid mobile phones for the first hour after waking.
Start a gratitude journal—write just 1 good thing about yourself every night.
Place a hand on your heart and whisper “I am healing. I am enough.” even if you don’t feel it yet.
Trust begins with small steps. Consider joining a yoga
Talk to someone—a counselor, therapist, or a compassionate healer.
Please remember: You are not broken—you are just out of rhythm with your true self. And in Ayurveda, we don’t treat symptoms—we restore your harmony with your own light.
You are precious. Your life has meaning. Healing is not only possible—it is your birthright.”
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Addressing self-loathing through an Ayurvedic lens involves understanding underlying causes and making thoughtful lifestyle changes. Firstly, self-hatred often correlates with elevated levels of Vata dosha, which can manifest as anxiety, scattered emotion, and a restless mind. Vata imbalance can particularly disrupt sleep, generate mistrust, and radiate isolation from oneself and others. Fostering balance in Vata by establishing routine might start create an internal environment where self-compassion can grow.
Begin with a grounded daily routine. Wake up and sleep at consistent times, aligned as closely as possible to the sun's cycle. Implementing a bedtime routine that calms the mind—this could include leisurely reading, soothing music, or a warm bath—may improve sleep quality over time. A steady routine fosters safety and is crucial for restoring balance.
Diet too play a big role in mental well-being. Favor warm, nutritious, easily digestible foods, like cooked grains and vegetables, and avoid cold or dry foods (this includes cold salads or frozen meals). Indulging in spices like ginger and cinnamon can stimulate and stabilize digestion.
Furthermore, yoga and meditation are powerful allies for both body and mind. Gentle yoga practices centered around grounding postures help cultivate a sense of inner stability, fostering confidence and self-acceptance. Meditation, focusing on loving-kindness or self-compassion, encourages a compassionate inner dialogue. At first this might be challenging, but persistence will pays off.
However, it's vital to assess whether more immediate intervention is necessary. Intense feelings of self-hatred or despair should be shared, confided with a trusted health professional or counselor. Talking with someone can offer perspective and reassurance in difficult times and is always a step forward. Remember, seeking help isn’t admitting failure; it’s an act of strength.
Incorporating supportive practices aid healing, but reaching out for support is equally paramount. Start small, be forgiving with self-improvement, and open doors to various methods of healing. Stay committed to creating consistency in routine and care, but don’t shy away from kindness—especially toward yourself.
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