How to resolve self loathing?

Question

I hate myself very much.
I wish I was never born.
Subconsciously I cuss myself everyday. How do I solve this? My sleep schedule is fucked, I have no real friends and I can hardly trust people. 
Is there any end to this?

Dr. Arun Desai · Accepted Answer

Hello Friend Draff

" Life is Precious Comes Once 
Enjoy ! Entertain !  Elaborate !  for Good Purposes "

• Do Good with Urself.Love Urself.
• Accpet Urself as U R .Hold On Urself.These are Precious Life Lessons ur Learning in Tender Age now.
• Try To Be Kind with Urself.Have Mercy towards urself.
• Help Urself Get Out of This Situation .Ur Only Person Can Help Urself out of this Situation.
• Be Affermative.Keep Positive Approach always.Convert Negative thought in to Positive.Talk with Urself Positive like" I m  Feeling Positive " My Mind is Getting Calm " I m feeling Peaceful" U mind Doesn't Differentiate What u thik it assumes and shows same picture.
• Keep Writing Ur Strength on Page Everyday.Keep always reminding those 
• Plan ur Routine Work Study Wisely.Follow Them Honestly 
• Visualise Good Things Happening ur Life is Changing second by second 
• Youngage Urself in Hobbies Singing Dancing etc Work Social Helps Charity works etc Mind Attention Games .Always keep ur Busy with Work 
• Be Social and Create Positive Friends Circles without selfishness and Expectations.
• Read Motivational Books Stories.Keep Ur Ideals Higher.
• Volunteer ur Time for Needy And Good Purposes
• Deep Breathing and Exhale Slowly in Panicness Anxiety 
• Prefer Highly Nutritious Diet All Leafy Vegetable Fruits salads sprouts Fibers etc Drink Plenty of Water Fluids Juices Approximately 3 Liters Per Day.
• Avoid Acidic Spicy Salty Sour Masala Fried Fast Juck Foods Stimulants like Tea Coffee Carbonated beverages etc 
• Do Meditation Dhyan Relaxing Yogas Anumol Vilom Pranayama 
• Good Physical Activities Exercise Outdoor Sports etc 
• Safe Effective Ayurvedic Medicines 
* For Stress  :- Tab
Ashwagandha 250 mg 1 - 0 - 1 After Food 
* For Sound Sleep :- Tab.Tagar 250 0-0- 1 After Food

REGARDS

Dr Arun Desai

God Bless You 😊🙏

If you have any questions u can ask me .U have Text Option here .I will Answer u to The levels of ur satisfaction.

Dr. Prajakta Kulkarni · Answer

Hi. Kindly consult psychiatrist in person.

Dr. Nisha Bisht · Answer

Coconut oil

Dr. Trupti · Answer

Hi,
Sometimes things never happens as we want ,but it doesn't mean u have to go against your self respect ,
Don't curse urself ,so many people feel this feeling in their lifetime .
If you r so heavy consult with counsellor ,visit psychiatrist.
Give yourself time to heal from trumas might you faced .

affirm positive about situation and self 
Work on your self ...
Focus on new hobbies
Try to talk with frends you trust without having much expectations
-Apply brahmi oil on your head and feet before bedtime and gentle massage
 -Saraswatarisht 15ml with warm water twice

If Any other questions  u may ask

Dr. M.Sushma · Answer

Start doing meditation pranayama daily 
Take Medha vati-
Brahmi vati-
1 tab twice daily after food with warm milk
Saraswathi aristha-
4 teaspoon with equal quantity of water twice daily after food
Apply black dot both thumbs below nail daily for 4 hours
You will see wonderful results

Dr. Snehal Vidhate · Answer

Hello Draff
           Please dont curse youself. You are the only one which will bring you out from this. We have trust, love, praise ourself first then only we can trust and love others. I dont know to what extend I can help you... But you have to try and indulge positivity, ray of hope in you... 
  
Start slow... Try to do this one by one... I know it will be difficult for you but keep moving towards healing both mentally, psychologically and subconciously

1. Maintain a diary and write all good things about you... Even if you feel you are not good in that.
2. Tell affirmative sentences to yourself like 
" i am most helpful person, i am most good looking, i m most confident person i can do whatever i want n all 
3. Whenever negetive thoughts come to your mind, take a deep breath and think of one perosn, one god or any thing you have faith in 
4. Do pranyanam daily 
5. Indulge yourself in the things you like to do... It can be anything drawing, cooking, reading, watching tv series, movies anything 
6. Keep your mind always busy in some or other things

INTERNAL MEDICATION 
This medication will help to keep your mind calm and fresh 
1. Kalyanka ghritha 1 tsp morning empty stomach followed by warm water
2. S. G. Tab 2-0-2 after food 
3. Brahmi tab 2-0-2 after food 
4. Mahapaischaika ghrita  1 tsp at bed time follwed by warm water

I WILL STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU TO GO FOR PANCHAKARMA THERAPY ALONG WITH PROPER COUNSELLING 
1. Shirodhara 
2. Sarvanga abhynga 
3. Steam

Apply ksheerbala oil on head half hour before bath

Dr. Surya Bhagwati · Answer

Daily write on paper 108 times one positive affirmations  : I am a pure soul,/ I am happy soul/ I am lovable soul/ / I am powerful soul ...
Creat all positive thoughts to your self

Dr. Surya Bhagwati · Answer

In contd...
Do pranayam lom -vilom bhastrika bhamri 5-10mins daily 
Go on a nature walk 
Learn Rajyoga meditation and practice daily 
Take Brahmi vati 1-0-1
Ashwagandha 1-0-1
After food with water

Dr. Atul Painuli · Answer

Hey draff dnt be so negative you are just 18 year old  it's a beginning of your happy life ..DNT be negative always positive..listen soleful songs/chanting om every day/regular do meditation incan PRESCIBE some helpful medication

RX... Neuroghrit gold tab 2-2 tab before meal twice daily

Medha vati
Ashwagandha cap
Manasmritika vatakam=1-1 tab after meal twice daily

Badam rogan nasya every morning and evening

Anulom vilom/bhramri/ujjyayi pranayama every day

Frindship with positive peoples

Stay away from negativity and negative persons

You can cured on day

Dr. Nisha Bisht · Answer

It’s okay to feel brokenn sometimes. What matters is that healing is possible.
immediate things you can do to start moving toward relief:
1. Talk to Someone You Can Trust.
2. Start with One Small Change
3. Practice Rewriting the Inner Voice
4.you said your sleep is messed up—it can feel impossible to fix when your mind is heavy. Try:
1.No screens 30 mins before bed
2.start listning to soft music.
Start - puting anutail into nostril at night
* Tab.Sleepwell tablet 2-0-2
* Bramhi vati 2-0-2
* Oiling your hair with covonut oil.

Dr. Prasad Pentakota · Answer

You are big issues and you are aware if it and wants a solution that is a good start. 
I just want to say to 
Be positive 
Think good. 
Do yoga 
Meditation 
Eat healthy 
Concentrate on a specific habit 
Any thing 
Reading books 
Planting 
Watch feel good movies 
Swimming if u know swimming 
If possible meet a psychologist 
Hope u will get solution soon 
All the best

Dr. Rampratap Vishwakarma · Answer

Take 
Mahakalyanak ghrut 10g OD empty stomach 
Brahmi vati 2----0----2

Always remember
 Life is Beautiful gift of God 
 Make others Happy 
Help other without any favour

Dr. M.Sushma · Answer

Thank you for having the courage to express what you’re feeling. Please know that you are not alone, and there is a path toward healing. In Ayurveda, we believe that the body, mind, and soul are deeply interconnected. When the mind is overwhelmed, the doshas—especially Vata—go out of balance, leading to anxiety, insomnia, emotional isolation, and hopelessness.

What you are experiencing is not your fault. It is your body and mind’s way of saying: “I need care, love, and grounding.”

Take
1. Brahmi vati- 1 tab twice daily after food
2.Ashwagandha capsule- one cap daily 
Wake up before 7 AM (even if your sleep is disturbed, just sit in morning sunlight for 10–15 minutes).
Abhyanga (self-oil massage) with warm sesame oil daily 
Drink warm water with turmeric and tulsi in the morning.
Light a small lamp (diya) or incense and sit in silence or chant ‘So Hum’ mantra for 5 minutes.
Avoid mobile phones for the first hour after waking.
Start a gratitude journal—write just 1 good thing about yourself every night.
Place a hand on your heart and whisper “I am healing. I am enough.” even if you don’t feel it yet.
Trust begins with small steps. Consider joining a yoga
Talk to someone—a counselor, therapist, or a compassionate healer.

Please remember: You are not broken—you are just out of rhythm with your true self. And in Ayurveda, we don’t treat symptoms—we restore your harmony with your own light.
You are precious. Your life has meaning. Healing is not only possible—it is your birthright.”

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